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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 638575" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>MWM,</p><p>See I feel like that is a natural progression when first identifying an issue. Figure it out, fix it, and support the fix.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I think the issue I have seen most is when a parent of a new difficult child or a difficult child they haven't admitted to yet comes here for support and the first answer is the harshest one. I know I have posted things once or twice about my kid doing something low level stupid and the next thing I know I am being advised to remove her from my home. I tend to just skip that response and move along. But I have seen many who take offense or who leave because they need the appropriate level of support and advice for their situation and not my jaded detachment. </p><p> </p><p>I guess the hard thing is letting someone else go through that natural progression at their own speed. Moving from fix it all mom, to nothing I am doing is working and difficult child is now old enough to start working on this themselves. It seems like it is very hard to know when to draw that line in the sand between supportive and it's time you moved on. For 18 years most of us have been working our butts off to raise well rounded good kids. One minor bad act and somebody gives you the advice to kick the difficult child out. It's like going from A to Z and skipping all the natural progression. The steps of grief I guess you could call them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 638575, member: 15473"] MWM, See I feel like that is a natural progression when first identifying an issue. Figure it out, fix it, and support the fix. I think the issue I have seen most is when a parent of a new difficult child or a difficult child they haven't admitted to yet comes here for support and the first answer is the harshest one. I know I have posted things once or twice about my kid doing something low level stupid and the next thing I know I am being advised to remove her from my home. I tend to just skip that response and move along. But I have seen many who take offense or who leave because they need the appropriate level of support and advice for their situation and not my jaded detachment. I guess the hard thing is letting someone else go through that natural progression at their own speed. Moving from fix it all mom, to nothing I am doing is working and difficult child is now old enough to start working on this themselves. It seems like it is very hard to know when to draw that line in the sand between supportive and it's time you moved on. For 18 years most of us have been working our butts off to raise well rounded good kids. One minor bad act and somebody gives you the advice to kick the difficult child out. It's like going from A to Z and skipping all the natural progression. The steps of grief I guess you could call them. [/QUOTE]
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