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<blockquote data-quote="CrazyinVA" data-source="post: 638581" data-attributes="member: 1157"><p>Good post, dstc, Often we read about a situation, relate it to our own, and immediately jump to conclusions or give advice based on our own experience – which is natural, really. We want to help, and sometimes the nerve that a story touches is still pretty raw. I think it’s important to remember, however, that each parent’s experience is unique, as is each difficult child. Just because a parent’s description sounds like the diagnosis or issue our own difficult child has, doesn’t mean it is the same. Just because a decision we made led to a certain outcome with our difficult child, doesn’t mean someone else needs to take that same path (or not take that same path). I think the best thing we can do is simply share experiences, share what worked for us, and lend support without judging or dictating what action another parent should take. It’s a fine line sometimes, especially when so many come here asking for advice. </p><p></p><p>I fully admit to being jaded, and it’s why I don’t often jump in – I got to my “detachment” place after a very long battle and under a lot of unique and complicated circumstances with my difficult children. My decisions and boundaries are not for everyone, but they worked (and work) for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CrazyinVA, post: 638581, member: 1157"] Good post, dstc, Often we read about a situation, relate it to our own, and immediately jump to conclusions or give advice based on our own experience – which is natural, really. We want to help, and sometimes the nerve that a story touches is still pretty raw. I think it’s important to remember, however, that each parent’s experience is unique, as is each difficult child. Just because a parent’s description sounds like the diagnosis or issue our own difficult child has, doesn’t mean it is the same. Just because a decision we made led to a certain outcome with our difficult child, doesn’t mean someone else needs to take that same path (or not take that same path). I think the best thing we can do is simply share experiences, share what worked for us, and lend support without judging or dictating what action another parent should take. It’s a fine line sometimes, especially when so many come here asking for advice. I fully admit to being jaded, and it’s why I don’t often jump in – I got to my “detachment” place after a very long battle and under a lot of unique and complicated circumstances with my difficult children. My decisions and boundaries are not for everyone, but they worked (and work) for me. [/QUOTE]
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