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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 656349" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Wendy, I am so sorry and this is very, very hard stuff right now. You are in the trenches. When we start saying No, they push back harder, and the threat of suicide is very common. My son threatened it many times.</p><p></p><p>If you know where he is, call the police and send them there to intervene with him.</p><p></p><p>In our state, it is illegal to threaten suicide and that is a blessing. I called the police multiple times when my son threatened this. Finally, my son stopped.</p><p></p><p>I believe you have to take it seriously every single time, but I never truly believed my son meant to kill himself. I believe his was manipulation.</p><p></p><p>That still doesn't mean it isn't very hard, just being present in the face of this.</p><p></p><p>In a way, Wendy, it is very good that you CAN't give him money, even if you WANTED to. It is what it is.</p><p></p><p>What can you do for yourself today, to get support? some thoughts are:</p><p></p><p>1. Keep posting here. We care very much and we understand.</p><p>2. Call a trusted friend.</p><p>3. Find and go to an Al-Anon meeting, Nar-Non meeting, NAMI meeting.</p><p>4. Go online to <a href="http://www.al-anon.org/electronic-meetings" target="_blank">http://www.al-anon.org/electronic-meetings</a> and find an online al-anon meeting.</p><p>5. Write in a journal or into a computer document exactly what you feel. </p><p>6. Take a nap. Take a walk. Sit quietly and let your feelings flow through you. Cry. Pound a pillow.</p><p>7. Buy some grocery store flowers for your kitchen table.</p><p>8. Pray and meditate.</p><p>9. Go to a yoga class. </p><p></p><p>Wendy, I remember being right where you are. It is exhausting. Often, I took a nap and that really helped me. Or I would lie down and read a book. </p><p></p><p>We must take care of ourselves, and realize that we are important. We are 51% and they are 49%. We are worthy. We matter. What we want matters. The quality of our lives matter. We only have one life, and this is it. Today. Right now. What do we want it to be?</p><p></p><p>Warm hugs, Wendy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 656349, member: 17542"] Wendy, I am so sorry and this is very, very hard stuff right now. You are in the trenches. When we start saying No, they push back harder, and the threat of suicide is very common. My son threatened it many times. If you know where he is, call the police and send them there to intervene with him. In our state, it is illegal to threaten suicide and that is a blessing. I called the police multiple times when my son threatened this. Finally, my son stopped. I believe you have to take it seriously every single time, but I never truly believed my son meant to kill himself. I believe his was manipulation. That still doesn't mean it isn't very hard, just being present in the face of this. In a way, Wendy, it is very good that you CAN't give him money, even if you WANTED to. It is what it is. What can you do for yourself today, to get support? some thoughts are: 1. Keep posting here. We care very much and we understand. 2. Call a trusted friend. 3. Find and go to an Al-Anon meeting, Nar-Non meeting, NAMI meeting. 4. Go online to [URL]http://www.al-anon.org/electronic-meetings[/URL] and find an online al-anon meeting. 5. Write in a journal or into a computer document exactly what you feel. 6. Take a nap. Take a walk. Sit quietly and let your feelings flow through you. Cry. Pound a pillow. 7. Buy some grocery store flowers for your kitchen table. 8. Pray and meditate. 9. Go to a yoga class. Wendy, I remember being right where you are. It is exhausting. Often, I took a nap and that really helped me. Or I would lie down and read a book. We must take care of ourselves, and realize that we are important. We are 51% and they are 49%. We are worthy. We matter. What we want matters. The quality of our lives matter. We only have one life, and this is it. Today. Right now. What do we want it to be? Warm hugs, Wendy. [/QUOTE]
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