I have moved...same state, different city. By coincidence, a friend of mine who I've had some odd issues with did the same. They moved to a city only an hour or so away.
They have had heavy duty problems the last seven years or so. Overspending, arguments with relatives, legal issues, loss of job. Throughout most of this interestingly, they act like they are better than us and just about everybody. I've mentioned here that perhaps it is a cultural/class phenomena.
They are restructuring their lives in ways profoundly similar to ours . Hmmm. It feels weird. No compliments. Just blatant copying.i suppose it's a hidden compliment of sorts.
Now she is insisting on visiting our house this weekend. I haven't invited her. I am trying to pull away a little. I did plan on having a party down the road and invite them at that time.
This is the second person to do this. Others just wait for an invitation. Or try to be helpful in some way.
I've noticed that the two people who have "issues" just want to see and likely compare. The first one is a distant relative.
BUT to my surprise person number one (distant relative) offered to be of help and I found that very nice and I've invited her over.
This other gal I just don't feel that way. They are about to make an offer on a home. I suppose it's more comparison stuff.
This person (odd friend) actually got jealous when our previous home was burglarized ... blurting out "I suppose now you are going to make a ton of insurance money!" Wth? We were dreadfully under insured, lost money and traumatized by the experience. What kind of weird, inappropriate comment was that?
My husband is frustrated with the distant relative but more or less ok. He is furious with odd friend due to a boat load of odd behaviors...some might be considered rude... the last few years.
Now I'm questioning myself.
Maybe I have issues saying NO!?!?! Maybe it's not a big deal when people are jealous. Or should adults not be jealous? If they are, should they be mature enough to deal with it more appropriately?
Once again...thank you for letting me get this off my chest.
I think I'm telling odd friend NO
They have had heavy duty problems the last seven years or so. Overspending, arguments with relatives, legal issues, loss of job. Throughout most of this interestingly, they act like they are better than us and just about everybody. I've mentioned here that perhaps it is a cultural/class phenomena.
They are restructuring their lives in ways profoundly similar to ours . Hmmm. It feels weird. No compliments. Just blatant copying.i suppose it's a hidden compliment of sorts.
Now she is insisting on visiting our house this weekend. I haven't invited her. I am trying to pull away a little. I did plan on having a party down the road and invite them at that time.
This is the second person to do this. Others just wait for an invitation. Or try to be helpful in some way.
I've noticed that the two people who have "issues" just want to see and likely compare. The first one is a distant relative.
BUT to my surprise person number one (distant relative) offered to be of help and I found that very nice and I've invited her over.
This other gal I just don't feel that way. They are about to make an offer on a home. I suppose it's more comparison stuff.
This person (odd friend) actually got jealous when our previous home was burglarized ... blurting out "I suppose now you are going to make a ton of insurance money!" Wth? We were dreadfully under insured, lost money and traumatized by the experience. What kind of weird, inappropriate comment was that?
My husband is frustrated with the distant relative but more or less ok. He is furious with odd friend due to a boat load of odd behaviors...some might be considered rude... the last few years.
Now I'm questioning myself.
Maybe I have issues saying NO!?!?! Maybe it's not a big deal when people are jealous. Or should adults not be jealous? If they are, should they be mature enough to deal with it more appropriately?
Once again...thank you for letting me get this off my chest.
I think I'm telling odd friend NO