Ok, so... The baby shower went off without a hitch. The games were great, the girls did a great job hosting, and even difficult child helped and was mostly good for it. He is really into decorating, lemme tell ya. PS we made the bottle of babies game by taking little plastic babies that you get as "favors" and boiling them til you could bend their arms enough to make them linkable, then stuck them in a bottle. Bowling was a hit. Love the dirty diaper ideas! As for the good ol' mother in law...well... I am not sure the last time I actually spoke to her. She was here at my house for the 4th of July but she never got out of her car. She did call me one day a month or so ago and asked me if my mom was in danger of flooding. Literally, that's all that was said when I answered my phone. Not even a hello. (she wants my mom's antiques from her house - keeps waiting for the sale since dad died.) Not speaking to me is typical from her. On Memorial weekend, we drove 3 hours to her dinner for father in law's birthday and the ONLY thing she said to me was to ask where easy child 2 was (we didn't have difficult child 2, either, but she didn't ask about him - nor did she thank me for helping set up or say "hi" or say "bye" or say "thanks for coming" or any other phrase). So you get the idea. She doesn't speak to me much, and that's fine with me. So I helped the girls with this shower today for (follow me here) husband's sister's ex-husband and his new wife (my ex-brother in law and his new wife). This is mother in law's ex son-in-law. I got home at 8 tonight, after leaving at 8am, and husband took me out to eat. His mom, dad, and sister were at the same restaurant. Remember how much this woman speaks to me now... I was no more than seated and she was behind me with husband's sister beside her. Wanna know what she said? "HOW WAS YOUR SHOWER? DID YOU HAVE A GOOD TURN OUT? DO THEY KNOW WHAT THEY'RE HAVING? WHO ALL CAME? Did they get nice gifts? How many did they get?" blah blah blah blah...you get the idea. Of course, sister in law had to ask "who's shower did you go to?" And I didn't want to lie, so I told her. She knows we still see her ex, but we don't bring it up around her and all is well. She handled it ok, but I wanted to wring mother in law's neck. She was stirring the pot and nothing more. So, being mean like I am, later on I just told them that the last time they ate at that restaraunt with us, they were being observed by the in-home. (which was true - I set it up and didn't tell a soul - I was being observed, too, but I was the only one who knew). difficult child was really good that night, but it mugged the crap out of her. Smack my hand now, cause that was bad, but dangit, she just gets me. And I think next Christmas, after she asks me to deliver homemade candy to ex-brother in law for her, I'll be sure to tell her, in front of sister in law, that he enjoyed his candy and sends his thanks. Marked or not, she's a few pieces short of a puzzle...ugh. I am reminded why I avoid her.