BusynMember
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Thank you all very much. You are so kind. She certainly does not think she is beautiful...lol. She tells me to "be quiet" if I tell her she is even pretty.
J's parents are pieces of work. The "mom" (stepmom whom he calls mom and loves as a mom) posts nasty stuff on his Facebook ALL THE TIME then deletes her comments. I guess she wants it there just long enough to break his heart, then doesn't want a chance for all of his friends to see it (although I'm sure some do. Jumper sure does and she reads the comments to me). If you met J....he is like a deer in the headlights, ready to jump at any loud noise. It is like he is just ready to be beaten up, at least verbally.
He reminds me of a puppy who has been mistreated and has no reason to trust anybody. Yet, like a puppy, he is still unfailingly kind and polite and would give anyone the shirt off his back. I have never ever met a kid with so much talent and potential who thought so little of himself. My autistic son is not as hang dog as J. is. My son is socially awkward but actually thinks pretty well about himself. J. hates himself, and it shows.
I am still ruminating over what I can do. Since I don't believe he's an imminent danger to himself, I am going to ask around, as well as ponder all of your suggestions. The hard part is knowing that if his parents find out in any way that I know about his depression they will take it out on J. badly. Since he is almost eighteen, CPS won't be involved if they are very cruel to him. I don't even want to think about that now...just want to think about how much fun homecoming looked and hope he had a great time. We let him use our car for the dance. His parents took his cell phone, internet, and car privledges away from him so we give him back his dignity a bit when he comes here and we already gave him a cell phone and put him on our service. He pays us for using the service...it is only $50 month. At least he is not so isolated when he is at home. I know we shouldn't undermine this parents, but they are so awful to him and he is such a sad kid...hub and I decided to just do it. In two months he'll be eighteen anyway.
J's parents are pieces of work. The "mom" (stepmom whom he calls mom and loves as a mom) posts nasty stuff on his Facebook ALL THE TIME then deletes her comments. I guess she wants it there just long enough to break his heart, then doesn't want a chance for all of his friends to see it (although I'm sure some do. Jumper sure does and she reads the comments to me). If you met J....he is like a deer in the headlights, ready to jump at any loud noise. It is like he is just ready to be beaten up, at least verbally.
He reminds me of a puppy who has been mistreated and has no reason to trust anybody. Yet, like a puppy, he is still unfailingly kind and polite and would give anyone the shirt off his back. I have never ever met a kid with so much talent and potential who thought so little of himself. My autistic son is not as hang dog as J. is. My son is socially awkward but actually thinks pretty well about himself. J. hates himself, and it shows.
I am still ruminating over what I can do. Since I don't believe he's an imminent danger to himself, I am going to ask around, as well as ponder all of your suggestions. The hard part is knowing that if his parents find out in any way that I know about his depression they will take it out on J. badly. Since he is almost eighteen, CPS won't be involved if they are very cruel to him. I don't even want to think about that now...just want to think about how much fun homecoming looked and hope he had a great time. We let him use our car for the dance. His parents took his cell phone, internet, and car privledges away from him so we give him back his dignity a bit when he comes here and we already gave him a cell phone and put him on our service. He pays us for using the service...it is only $50 month. At least he is not so isolated when he is at home. I know we shouldn't undermine this parents, but they are so awful to him and he is such a sad kid...hub and I decided to just do it. In two months he'll be eighteen anyway.