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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 691868" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Thank you Jabber. You described it exactly. Exactly what my situation is and exactly what I stepped into.</p><p></p><p>There is no way to see prison life through a everyday lens. </p><p></p><p>I do not care that I do not get respect. That I am used to. I just do not want to suffer. And more and more I am seeing that the suffering has to do with me, and nobody else. </p><p></p><p>I am afraid now, because I am being forced to confront problematic interactions with M my SO. </p><p></p><p>He is like you in terms of how he deals with transgressions. He sets firm and immediate boundaries, upfront, direct and clear.</p><p></p><p>The issue I am having is that I sometimes experience this as "abusive" but at the same time I love that he is not passive aggressive or petty or weak. I like the clarity which I sometimes experience as harsh and domineering. I like the strength but sometimes feel overpowered.</p><p></p><p>I do not like it when he rubs it in. </p><p></p><p>I am confused. </p><p></p><p>M is the kindest person and best person I have ever known well. I do not think he is either sadistic or cruel. I do not believe he wants to hurt me, although he can say things that do hurt. Does that make sense?</p><p></p><p>Thank you Jabber and everybody.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 691868, member: 18958"] Thank you Jabber. You described it exactly. Exactly what my situation is and exactly what I stepped into. There is no way to see prison life through a everyday lens. I do not care that I do not get respect. That I am used to. I just do not want to suffer. And more and more I am seeing that the suffering has to do with me, and nobody else. I am afraid now, because I am being forced to confront problematic interactions with M my SO. He is like you in terms of how he deals with transgressions. He sets firm and immediate boundaries, upfront, direct and clear. The issue I am having is that I sometimes experience this as "abusive" but at the same time I love that he is not passive aggressive or petty or weak. I like the clarity which I sometimes experience as harsh and domineering. I like the strength but sometimes feel overpowered. I do not like it when he rubs it in. I am confused. M is the kindest person and best person I have ever known well. I do not think he is either sadistic or cruel. I do not believe he wants to hurt me, although he can say things that do hurt. Does that make sense? Thank you Jabber and everybody. [/QUOTE]
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