I am just the stepparent of a 13 yr old boy who once lived with my husband and I and at that time we were getting him the help he needed...going to classes about ADHD, counseling, medications, etc. Then, his mom took him back. Since then he has stopped taking his medications and been suspended several times. At the beginning of the school year he was arrested for making threats to stab and shoot two kids at his school. He was allowed to participate in a "diversion" program and was suspended for a year from school. As far as I know, his mom has done NOTHING as far as the "diversion" program goes. We suspect he hasn't been doing any of the school work he is supposed to do at home and has had NO counseling. I am appalled at this but like I said in my title...I'm just along for the ride. I'm so angry about this because no one is doing anything to help him. Very recently he made a threat with a weapon in hand to a kid across the street and was arrested again. He spent 3 weeks in a juvenile detention center and was just released on Friday. When my husband talked to him on the phone he asked him if he had learned anything from this and his response was "yes, to keep my mouth shut" and my husband went on to tell him he needed to stay away from weapons of any kind and he said that sometimes he needs to carry a knife. It was clear he doesn't get it. Part of me is angry because I feel like his mom is bordering abuse/neglect by doing nothing. The other part is scared to death that his mom is going to try to send him out to live with us when she can no longer control him. I know I cannot live under the same roof as him and am quite worried about that actually. When I lived with him he scared me....and he was only 10 then. I wanted to keep my door locked at night because I had visions of him trying to harm me or us in our sleep. My husband seems to minimize his sons issues and gets angry at me when I try to help him understand how gravely serious his sons problems are. Now that he has gotten in trouble a second time I would hope it would prompt his mom to quickly get him some help but it's totally out of my hands. Any comments or suggestions are welcomed!