Just Another Mini Vent...Sigh!

Discussion in 'Substance Abuse' started by DDD, Apr 10, 2009.

  1. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Maybe this is more of a whine than a vent, come to think of it. Living with an alcoholic is stressful. Living with an alcoholic with some brain damage is very stressful. It's almost three in the AM I am sitting here with a cup of hot chocolate hoping I can get back to sleep before too long as I open the store in the morning.

    I try to focus on the good things with easy child/difficult child. Obviously since he almost died after the fall in '05 I thank God he is alive. He walks, talks, and sometimes is "almost" like his old self. on the other hand he has little impulse control which combined with his booze is a recipe for trouble. I am very thankful that he evidently has really given up drugs but even though I have never had weed...he has such poor judgement when he drinks that I assume he may take a hit or two off a blunt if it is offered post booze. He also almost always makes sure he has a designated driver. Some nights like tonight, however, the daughter was also drunk. :(

    So he got home safe at 2:10 (bars close at 2) and I drove his daughter to his house and then easy child/difficult child decided to go spend the night with his old girl friend. Phew/Whew! I made him call her on the beep beep so I could know he was welcome. It was a pleasure to drop the brat off and come on home alone.

    Once again the Serenity Prayer is the mantra. It's hard living with the things you can not change. End of whine/vent. DDD
  2. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Whine away, it does sound stressfull.

    Will easy child/difficult child go to AA meetings? Does he think he "has" a problem or does he think he's got it under control?

    Alcohol and it's consequences DO have a way of becoming evident regardless of how many loving family members there are, daughter's there are, etc.

    I hope the weekend allows you to get some rest, stress free.
  3. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    No AA Tammy. Remember he has been to three rehabs as a teen and all included alcohol as well as drug counseling. He "knows" the steps etc. but is adament that he is NOT going to give up drinking. :(

    His short term memory loss does play into the drinking problem because he "knows" he "only had 2 drinks". Problem is he only "remembers" 2 drinks. Yikes.

    Have a Happy Easter. I have my fingers crossed it will be calm at our house. DDD
  4. Lori4ever

    Lori4ever New Member

    I do hope you get some rest and have a nice weekend. It does get stressful when they are drinking or drugging. I would think it is magnified 10 fold with the Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) issue you live with. I do hope it gets better for you.
  5. lovemysons

    lovemysons Well-Known Member

    Oh DDD, compeltely spaced that. YEP, another interesting commonality between your easy child/difficult child and my Oldest difficult child...Oldest ALSO knows the Big Book and steps by heart from all his rehab and AA mandated times as a teen. And yet, he too, is NOT interested in going to AA at this point in his life.
    I am glad for all of our difficult child's that they have at least had the exposure to know where help is...when they finally DO get interested enough to seek it on their own at this point.

    Happy Easter to you too!
    Hey, I don't know if you've got any Casino's near where you live but I love to escape to the Casino about an hour away from my home to "destress", lol. Went there yesterday and came home 700 dollars richer, yeah!

    Hugs and love,
  6. maril

    maril New Member

    I have the Serenity Prayer on a card on the refrigerator. I still have to get to the point where I will have the "Wisdom to know the difference." Lol!

    It is rough to be robbed of sleep! I've been in that mode lately, too, where I wake up and can't go back to sleep.

    I hope your weekend is peaceful and enjoyable and that you do get some rest. It looks like you have lots of grandkids, so maybe you'll spend time with them on Easter and have fun?

    Lovemysons makes a good point that our difficult children have had the exposure and know where to seek help; yet, we can only hope for the best.
    Hang in there!
  7. PonyGirl

    PonyGirl Warrior Parent

    Jumping in late here....Just a shout-out to see how you're feeling today

  8. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    D3 -

    I admire your strength - Just thought I'd send an extra hug or two your way.

    COnsider yourself hugged.
  9. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Thanks. This week has been easier...or...I am less vulnerable this week?? Who knows, lol. Anyway it is always a comfort to know that CD family members are around to lend an ear, send a hug or pleasantly tolerate the whines/vents. ;) DDD