Is Nichole slipping back into gfgdom.........or is it boyfriend's manipulation? I find myself wondering even while I'm staying detached. Since she made her psychiatrist appointment I've been watching her closely. Habit mostly, I guess. If it's there, I'm not seeing it. Ok, so she has a temper. (so do I, a vicious one) But honestly, I've thought she's done really well learning to control it. Oh, she still has some work to do........but gawd, she's come a long way. And I figure if I could learn to control MY temper.......(which is worse than hers) she could learn to do the same. So, I asked her flat out what is making her believe the psychiatrist is necessary. She said the anger is out of control. (sorry, still not seeing it) I asked was it just the anger, or were there other things bothering her? Any of the things like during the downward spiral timeframe. No. No visual hallucinations. No real issue with anxiety. Just the anger. I hope psychiatrist will be able to sort this out for what it is. I would be worried if I were seeing some out of control anger issues here. But I'm not. Actually, she's doing well here........and heck, she has 2 other difficult children to contend with. Who by the way can grate on the nerves to the nth degree at times. At school with the lovey dovey giggly immature teeny bopper lovers she stated she was ready to rip their heads off......Yet she hasn't so much as said a word to them. Instead she spoke up to the instructor and ask him to do something about them, they're too distracting. So, that only leaves boyfriend's house as the place where her "rage" flares it's ugly head. Which makes me think boyfriend is up to his old manipulation games again. Not surprising since he told Nichole he would move out with her over the summer and they'd get a place together. This guy is a mega difficult child in his own right. Is terrified of moving out of his parent's home at 23yrs old. (has admitted it to her) And is scared out of his mind of any sort of commitment. Now that he got laid off from his job, he has no desire whatsoever to go looking for work. He wants a free ride from the benefits he gets due to the lay off for a year's worth of free schooling. (as long as he doesn't work) Ok, that part I don't blame him for. So......if by some miracle they do manage to wind up moving in together.....he is expecting Nichole to be the one to hold down the job and go to school. Call me old fashioned, but that sooooo doesn't sit well at all with me. Especially after all he's attempted to do to sabotage her schooling.......regardless of all his spouting that she needs her education. Odds are, the manipulation is to keep Nichole off guard long enough that she'll give up on the whole idea of moving in together. Although he was the one to bring it up in the first place. (typical for him) But unfortunately for Nichole, she has no choice. She has a deadline. Oh, and she told me that she is going to take the test to be a mail carrier. Seems we currently have a bit of a shortage going on in the area. I told her to do it if she wants. Pay and benefits are good. (better than EMT) And she'd still be able to go to school nights. Does this sound like someone who is becoming unstable?? Or am I just poking my head in the sand?