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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 717078" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Seriously? He really thinks you are an idiot, doesn't he? He doesn't respect you at all. Why aren't you madder than a we cat about this? I know it is hard, but until you change how you are behaving toward him, how you are treating him, why should he change? After all, he got thrown out and he can break into YOUR home with impunity. You now cannot even leave your home because as soon as you do, he will break in and make himself at home. </p><p></p><p>Who know? It was okay for him to be there this time. Maybe next time he will bring some friends who don't have a place to stay or even have a party. You won't be there to say No!, will you?</p><p></p><p>Isn't it time to stop seeing him as your little boy and start seeing him as the grown ass man who is CHOOSING this life and then trying to make you pay to make it easier for him? Aren't you sick and tired of paying to make the consequences of his choices easier? You work dang hard for your money, lady! Spend it on what you want! Tell that FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) to go and make someone else's vision cloudy! Every time things get FOGgy, wipe your eyes clear with the vision of him smoking on your couch - imagine him as a grown ass man in a giant diaper crying for his Mommy to fix things because he doesn't want to doe what he needs to do and doesn't like the real world's consequences for the choices he makes.</p><p></p><p>We all have to live in the real world. It just is what it is. 28 is plenty old enough to wake up and realize this. Mental illness doesn't exempt you from the real world. He can apply for social security and live on that if he wants, or he can deal with hisillness and go that route. But breaking into Mommy's house has to stop.</p><p></p><p>Unless Mommy wants it to continue?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 717078, member: 1233"] Seriously? He really thinks you are an idiot, doesn't he? He doesn't respect you at all. Why aren't you madder than a we cat about this? I know it is hard, but until you change how you are behaving toward him, how you are treating him, why should he change? After all, he got thrown out and he can break into YOUR home with impunity. You now cannot even leave your home because as soon as you do, he will break in and make himself at home. Who know? It was okay for him to be there this time. Maybe next time he will bring some friends who don't have a place to stay or even have a party. You won't be there to say No!, will you? Isn't it time to stop seeing him as your little boy and start seeing him as the grown ass man who is CHOOSING this life and then trying to make you pay to make it easier for him? Aren't you sick and tired of paying to make the consequences of his choices easier? You work dang hard for your money, lady! Spend it on what you want! Tell that FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) to go and make someone else's vision cloudy! Every time things get FOGgy, wipe your eyes clear with the vision of him smoking on your couch - imagine him as a grown ass man in a giant diaper crying for his Mommy to fix things because he doesn't want to doe what he needs to do and doesn't like the real world's consequences for the choices he makes. We all have to live in the real world. It just is what it is. 28 is plenty old enough to wake up and realize this. Mental illness doesn't exempt you from the real world. He can apply for social security and live on that if he wants, or he can deal with hisillness and go that route. But breaking into Mommy's house has to stop. Unless Mommy wants it to continue? [/QUOTE]
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