He had this on the internet under his name, alnog with one friend listed- "suicide girl". He has said things for the past 3-4 years that he felt nerdy and didn't like it. I know in some ways he's even more confortable in Department of Juvenile Justice because he feels like he has friends and is considered "in" with the crowd instead of an outcast. I'm not sure what to do- how can I help him when he comes home so he sees that there is something in between being an outcast from your peeers and being a thug in and out of Department of Juvenile Justice? I've tried explaining in a thousand ways that being a good kid who tries in best in school, the faact that he used to be a scout, he wears glasses, he is kind and his heart is just not one of a thug, but this is something to be proud of- not ashamed of. Tdocs have just never addressed this issue. [ame="http://vids.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=vids.individual&videoid=2674025"]White and Nerdy Video by Weird Al Yankovic - MySpace Video@@AMEPARAM@@http://mediaservices.myspace.com/services/media/embed.aspx/m=2674025@@AMEPARAM@@mediaservices@@AMEPARAM@@myspace@@AMEPARAM@@services/media/embed@@AMEPARAM@@aspx/m@@AMEPARAM@@2674025[/ame] I knew in my gut- this kid was intentionally breaking the law- it had nothing to do with my parenting. It is beyond why I have never (and still can't ) get anyone over at the courts to see that.