My husband will not EVER tell the kids to do a chore. He will walk around doing the VERY little that he does and gritch the whole time, but he won't EVER say "Do this" to them. We had a LONG talk about this a month ago. No change. Tyler will NOT remember a chore. Does NOT matter if I write it down, scream it, say it a hundred times. I am sick of it. We don't ask much of him, just dishes. And he CHOSE to have that from a list of chores. Jess is unable to do this, that and the other. She does have legit health issues that NO ONE can figure out. Mostly I can adjust and understand. But she has started to make plans to do stuff with my mom and those NEVER get changed. She goes to do something with gma and then spends four days unable to do anything. Friday they were ALL told what I expected them to do this weekend. NOTHING got done Sat. husband worked a 4 hr event at the Univ and played on his computer all day. NOT WORK for the class he is teaching starting Mon, PLAY as in video games. The kids did maybe 5 min of chores yesterday. Period. Today husband had a long game and the kids spent the day with my parents. They got home at 7:30 and just wanted to watch tv and munch. Gee, that's nice. I told husband that I now have a NEW chore strategy. I don't HAVE to take things away from the kids or make them miserable. I just have to make HIM miserable. I also let him know that Jess told my mother that we were in the middle of a major cleanout (husband hasn't picked up anything in the living room since christmas and I am UNABLE to do much - can't bend, dr orders to not lift anything over 2 pounds because my bones are a total freaking fully body break waiting to happen and I can't take ANY of the bone building medications). I haven't seen husband this scared in a LONG time. He seems to be taking me seriously. I didn't shout, or order, or raise my voice. I simply told him that he WAS going to start making the kids do stuff or I was going to make him so miserible like never before. I HATE THIS KOI!!!!!!! WHY is a simple request not enough? Do they think I am STUPID and can't SEE that things are not done? I have bad eyesight, but I have glasses too. The saddest part is that I WARNED them TWICE. I specifically said that Jess was NOT spending the day at my folks when husband brought it up on Wed. That I was TIRED of having her not be able to function here to do ANYTHING but be able to go to my parents and paint their shed, wash dishes, help tile a floor, etc.... She either IS too sick or she IS NOT too sick. I even warned thank you that the "I forgots" were going to end up with him going to school on very little sleep because he could do the chores at a reasonable time or he could do them after bedtime and this INCLUDES showers. Plus he can shower before bed every night or he can wash his sheets every day because he smells at the end of the day. I guess they need a wakeup call.