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<blockquote data-quote="'Chelle" data-source="post: 62569" data-attributes="member: 1161"><p>Hi Lori. Sorry you and your husband aren't on the same page with this. I can SO relate. My husband doesn't do anything much around the house either, his idea of cleaning is when things pile up on the floor from easy child playing and crafting - sweep everything into a pile to the side so it's out of his way and leave it there. I mean everything, toys, paper, dirt and dust, all in one pile. I refuse to do the garbage and yardwork though, I told him when he got a gas mower I don't DO gas mowers, so I evened it out a bit there. </p><p></p><p>When it came to difficult child and his problems really started at school when he was 7, my husband didn't get involved. He would make comments, usually negative, and say no medications, no way. What I finally did was told him to get involved, step up, or step out of the way, I would be making any and all decisions regarding the kids. If all the meetings, phone calls and appointments were left up to me, it would all be my decision. He's never gotten much involved unless they stated they wanted him at an appointment, but if he wasn't needed and I couldn't get the time off work it was seldom he'd take difficult child, I usually had to reschedule. He wasn't happy when difficult child was on medications, but they helped him and that's all I needed. I do wish husband had made the other choice and stepped up instead of stepping out, but it did make for less arguing between he and I.</p><p></p><p>I think most husband's are in denial that there may be something different about THEIR kid, something they can't fix themselves. Until it becomes such a big problem they can't deny it anymore. Do the research, leave printouts, pamphlets etc. laying around near where your husband sits. Maybe he'll pick one up and read it and see these things in your difficult child. Heck, leave the Explosive Child in the bathroom (my husband HAS to have something to read in there LOL) and maybe he'll pick it up and read parts at least. Hope your husband can come around before your difficult child struggles for too long in school and elsewhere. I know my difficult child's problems really took off in grade 2 when he was 7, and I've read a lot of other kids started having much more problems then too. The more she struggles, the more resistant she'll become to school in my opinion, because to her it won't be a fun place to be. </p><p></p><p>{{{{{HUGS}}}}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="'Chelle, post: 62569, member: 1161"] Hi Lori. Sorry you and your husband aren't on the same page with this. I can SO relate. My husband doesn't do anything much around the house either, his idea of cleaning is when things pile up on the floor from easy child playing and crafting - sweep everything into a pile to the side so it's out of his way and leave it there. I mean everything, toys, paper, dirt and dust, all in one pile. I refuse to do the garbage and yardwork though, I told him when he got a gas mower I don't DO gas mowers, so I evened it out a bit there. When it came to difficult child and his problems really started at school when he was 7, my husband didn't get involved. He would make comments, usually negative, and say no medications, no way. What I finally did was told him to get involved, step up, or step out of the way, I would be making any and all decisions regarding the kids. If all the meetings, phone calls and appointments were left up to me, it would all be my decision. He's never gotten much involved unless they stated they wanted him at an appointment, but if he wasn't needed and I couldn't get the time off work it was seldom he'd take difficult child, I usually had to reschedule. He wasn't happy when difficult child was on medications, but they helped him and that's all I needed. I do wish husband had made the other choice and stepped up instead of stepping out, but it did make for less arguing between he and I. I think most husband's are in denial that there may be something different about THEIR kid, something they can't fix themselves. Until it becomes such a big problem they can't deny it anymore. Do the research, leave printouts, pamphlets etc. laying around near where your husband sits. Maybe he'll pick one up and read it and see these things in your difficult child. Heck, leave the Explosive Child in the bathroom (my husband HAS to have something to read in there LOL) and maybe he'll pick it up and read parts at least. Hope your husband can come around before your difficult child struggles for too long in school and elsewhere. I know my difficult child's problems really took off in grade 2 when he was 7, and I've read a lot of other kids started having much more problems then too. The more she struggles, the more resistant she'll become to school in my opinion, because to her it won't be a fun place to be. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} [/QUOTE]
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