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<blockquote data-quote="OTE" data-source="post: 739537"><p>Copa,</p><p>I don't think Hope means to make judgements of other parent's choices. She mentions the rest of her world who "live in a peace zone" vs those who are here. But we all know there aren't just two options. We all live at some level of stress or "war". Its a spectrum, not a black or white situation. As I feel from my post re adoption, there's always underlying things we can't explain here. At best you can follow someone's posts for a long period if time to know the whole situation. So maybe over time you can understand the full situation. But one post doesn't tell the whole story. So I understand Hope's feeling that it would seem that a parent overreacted in kicking a child from the home based on one night, one event. Or the frustration that it seems that they won't change seems an overreaction based on one night. </p><p></p><p>I say this because Hope mentions an onset of 17 to 22. Certainly there are people here in that situation. But for many of us the onset was far younger. In my oldest son's case it was age 2. By the time I was looking for pre-school I knew that the avg school wasn't going to do. Perhaps Hope's son wasn't suspended from elementary school and she didn't have the police at her door for the first time when he was 7. What I'm saying is that making the kind if decision s we have to make is not based on one night, one month, or one year. But based on our child's lifetime and that doesn't fit into one post.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="OTE, post: 739537"] Copa, I don't think Hope means to make judgements of other parent's choices. She mentions the rest of her world who "live in a peace zone" vs those who are here. But we all know there aren't just two options. We all live at some level of stress or "war". Its a spectrum, not a black or white situation. As I feel from my post re adoption, there's always underlying things we can't explain here. At best you can follow someone's posts for a long period if time to know the whole situation. So maybe over time you can understand the full situation. But one post doesn't tell the whole story. So I understand Hope's feeling that it would seem that a parent overreacted in kicking a child from the home based on one night, one event. Or the frustration that it seems that they won't change seems an overreaction based on one night. I say this because Hope mentions an onset of 17 to 22. Certainly there are people here in that situation. But for many of us the onset was far younger. In my oldest son's case it was age 2. By the time I was looking for pre-school I knew that the avg school wasn't going to do. Perhaps Hope's son wasn't suspended from elementary school and she didn't have the police at her door for the first time when he was 7. What I'm saying is that making the kind if decision s we have to make is not based on one night, one month, or one year. But based on our child's lifetime and that doesn't fit into one post. [/QUOTE]
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