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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 739575" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>One of the issues my son has which has come since he left home is if he feels physically threatened he will react to defend himself by picking up a nearby tool and brandishing it. This terrifies me. This has happened with a hammer and once he picked up a machete somebody was using for yard work. Borh times an intruder has entered the prooerty. and in both cases m was there to protect him. he would have defended him. but my son knows too that with m there, there would be no risk to appear aggressive. My son has never threatened or hurt anybody. Still I am terrorized</p><p></p><p>Two times he was hit in the head. Once was a serious Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI).</p><p></p><p>I believe his reaction to threat is a traumatic response rather than the effects of Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). But I could be wrong.</p><p></p><p>The thing is this: when we were setting boundaries two months ago he became more reactive. Once he pushed his way into our house.</p><p></p><p>That was when I hit his leg with the pot. I did something else, too. I picked up a kitchen implement. I was unaware I had done so. </p><p></p><p>M told me to put it down. Only then did I become aware I had it. I had adopted the same symptom as my child. I had no consciousness or control.</p><p></p><p>That was when I knew i could do this no more. What I mean is that I had become my son. I then knew I had to detach for real.</p><p></p><p>Nobody has tried harder to confront and move beyond their past than have I. </p><p></p><p>So I guess i am coming down in the middle between swot and ote. I had no control. And yet I did. I decided to remove my son physically from my environment. And to hold that boundary. I took that control over my life. </p><p></p><p>But I think I come down as does ote. Swot. You had lots of challenges. But like me lots of advantages and strengths. I do not think because you did it, everybody can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 739575, member: 18958"] One of the issues my son has which has come since he left home is if he feels physically threatened he will react to defend himself by picking up a nearby tool and brandishing it. This terrifies me. This has happened with a hammer and once he picked up a machete somebody was using for yard work. Borh times an intruder has entered the prooerty. and in both cases m was there to protect him. he would have defended him. but my son knows too that with m there, there would be no risk to appear aggressive. My son has never threatened or hurt anybody. Still I am terrorized Two times he was hit in the head. Once was a serious Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). I believe his reaction to threat is a traumatic response rather than the effects of Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). But I could be wrong. The thing is this: when we were setting boundaries two months ago he became more reactive. Once he pushed his way into our house. That was when I hit his leg with the pot. I did something else, too. I picked up a kitchen implement. I was unaware I had done so. M told me to put it down. Only then did I become aware I had it. I had adopted the same symptom as my child. I had no consciousness or control. That was when I knew i could do this no more. What I mean is that I had become my son. I then knew I had to detach for real. Nobody has tried harder to confront and move beyond their past than have I. So I guess i am coming down in the middle between swot and ote. I had no control. And yet I did. I decided to remove my son physically from my environment. And to hold that boundary. I took that control over my life. But I think I come down as does ote. Swot. You had lots of challenges. But like me lots of advantages and strengths. I do not think because you did it, everybody can. [/QUOTE]
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