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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 665269" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>You have been there for her. While her words can cut like a knife they are just simply not true. You are not responsible for her emotional well being. All you can do is listen, you cannot make her life change, she has to do that.</p><p></p><p>Her perception is that you are not there for her in a way that she wants and the way that she wants is not healthy for either of you.</p><p></p><p>You are changing and that of course changes the dynamics of your relationship. She is used to retreating to the safety of your home when her life becomes to chaotic. That is no longer an option for her so of course she is going to think you are not there for her.</p><p></p><p>You know your daughter, you know what she wants from you. I understand why you did not return her phone call and that is nothing you should feel guilty about.</p><p></p><p>You can still call her back. Let her vent, let her rant, just listen, you don't have to offer any advice, just listen. If she starts to say ugly things to you, you can tell her you will not be subjected to her verbal abuse, say I love you, good bye and hang up. If she asks you to let her move home or for money you simply tell her no. If she asks why you can tell her because it's not healthy for you to enable her.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you posted. I'm glad you are here with us.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you..............</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 665269, member: 18516"] You have been there for her. While her words can cut like a knife they are just simply not true. You are not responsible for her emotional well being. All you can do is listen, you cannot make her life change, she has to do that. Her perception is that you are not there for her in a way that she wants and the way that she wants is not healthy for either of you. You are changing and that of course changes the dynamics of your relationship. She is used to retreating to the safety of your home when her life becomes to chaotic. That is no longer an option for her so of course she is going to think you are not there for her. You know your daughter, you know what she wants from you. I understand why you did not return her phone call and that is nothing you should feel guilty about. You can still call her back. Let her vent, let her rant, just listen, you don't have to offer any advice, just listen. If she starts to say ugly things to you, you can tell her you will not be subjected to her verbal abuse, say I love you, good bye and hang up. If she asks you to let her move home or for money you simply tell her no. If she asks why you can tell her because it's not healthy for you to enable her. I'm glad you posted. I'm glad you are here with us. ((HUGS)) to you.............. [/QUOTE]
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