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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 709366" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>First off, my heart breaks for all of you. Secondly i have a son on the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) spectrun. He is 23, doing great. I understand autism from reading a literal library about it and living with it and walking with my son every step of his way until he no longer needed that.</p><p></p><p>You did nothing wrong as parents. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids are intristically very emotional, sensitive and some do get quite wild and even violent.</p><p></p><p> Most calm down as they get older and learn how to express themselves better. This is how he is AT THIS TIME, but because his brain is wired differently and not becsuse of anything you did. Trust that. He is different. He is reacting to an overwhelming environment where a dropped pencil can to him sound like a bomb. Autism is a spectrum. Your son obviously gets frustrated and angry easily. And I bet he is so sensitive to loud noise, touch, textures, crowds, certaon foods, angervin others etc. My son used to cover his ears for normal noise. He would throw up lumpy food. He couldnt tolerate tags on the backs of his shirys and wr cut them out. He liked doing one thing over and over again, like tossing a ball and watching it drop. He did not speak until he was five. He did not give otjers personal space and did not know how to interact rifht with his little peers. He had to get interventions, moat from school, and he im0roved dramatically. He was smart but needed a small, calm classroom and got one. But I would have homeschooled if necessary.</p><p></p><p>Autism is a developmental delay. Most improve with age and intervention. I think you were smart to homeschool him because some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can not handle loud bells, too many kids.and the destraction of rustling paper inschool. Putting him in a safe place when he had his meltdown was kind of you. Yes, kind.He will get 24/7 help. Hopefully staff understands Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Get to know them. </p><p></p><p>Please know you are doing right by a differently wired child who is struggling, and that is a good parent. Keep an eye on Staff and be sure he is getting help and making progress. And that they understand he is not able to control himself yet.</p><p></p><p>My 23 year old became very calm and stable, lives in an apartment on his own dime, gets some social security but not much as he works two part time jobs. He is 90% independent after a slow start in life. He learned how to be friendly, and everyone tells me what a great, polite, nice young man he is. Quite a difference from when he didnt sleep and hung from the rafters!</p><p></p><p>I will be thinking of all of you. Feel peaceful that you are doing what good parents do when their little ones need extra help. And post again anytime.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 709366, member: 1550"] First off, my heart breaks for all of you. Secondly i have a son on the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) spectrun. He is 23, doing great. I understand autism from reading a literal library about it and living with it and walking with my son every step of his way until he no longer needed that. You did nothing wrong as parents. Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids are intristically very emotional, sensitive and some do get quite wild and even violent. Most calm down as they get older and learn how to express themselves better. This is how he is AT THIS TIME, but because his brain is wired differently and not becsuse of anything you did. Trust that. He is different. He is reacting to an overwhelming environment where a dropped pencil can to him sound like a bomb. Autism is a spectrum. Your son obviously gets frustrated and angry easily. And I bet he is so sensitive to loud noise, touch, textures, crowds, certaon foods, angervin others etc. My son used to cover his ears for normal noise. He would throw up lumpy food. He couldnt tolerate tags on the backs of his shirys and wr cut them out. He liked doing one thing over and over again, like tossing a ball and watching it drop. He did not speak until he was five. He did not give otjers personal space and did not know how to interact rifht with his little peers. He had to get interventions, moat from school, and he im0roved dramatically. He was smart but needed a small, calm classroom and got one. But I would have homeschooled if necessary. Autism is a developmental delay. Most improve with age and intervention. I think you were smart to homeschool him because some Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) kids can not handle loud bells, too many kids.and the destraction of rustling paper inschool. Putting him in a safe place when he had his meltdown was kind of you. Yes, kind.He will get 24/7 help. Hopefully staff understands Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Get to know them. Please know you are doing right by a differently wired child who is struggling, and that is a good parent. Keep an eye on Staff and be sure he is getting help and making progress. And that they understand he is not able to control himself yet. My 23 year old became very calm and stable, lives in an apartment on his own dime, gets some social security but not much as he works two part time jobs. He is 90% independent after a slow start in life. He learned how to be friendly, and everyone tells me what a great, polite, nice young man he is. Quite a difference from when he didnt sleep and hung from the rafters! I will be thinking of all of you. Feel peaceful that you are doing what good parents do when their little ones need extra help. And post again anytime. [/QUOTE]
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