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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 40389" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It happens to all of us. </p><p></p><p>You did the right thing in giving him choices re your help with fractions. I wouldn't tell him he's being difficult, just that he has two options and it's his choice. Repeat yourself.</p><p></p><p>The other problem I see, and I'm not sure what you can do about it - you're taking what he says and does too personally. Don't. Let it wash past you. You did a good thing in not nagging him; we have to do that sometimes.</p><p></p><p>An alternative suggestion - write out a morning schedule for him, giving a list of what he has to do and what time it should be done by. Maybe negotiate with him about how long he thinks certain tasks will take him - give way to him on this because if HE is wrong, HE will be the one to be late. Make it clear when you give way, though, that this is HIS choice of time allowed, not yours. And if it turns out that he CAN do it and you were wrong - be prepared to say so, and congratulate him on getting it right. it won't always be that way, so let him enjoy the moment.</p><p></p><p>With the schedule - we have ours on a blackboard. difficult child 3 ticks off what he's done and we rub off the ticks for next time.</p><p></p><p>It really works. Instead of nagging, just a reminder of "How is your morning schedule going?"</p><p></p><p>Kids like ours do much better with a written list. They don't have to hold al the info in their heads. All they have to remember is one thing - check the schedule.</p><p></p><p>The fact that he ended up rushing to be ready shows that he IS motivated. THAT isn't the problem. So nagging isn't really needed, you just need him to remember to stay on task and if he uses a schedule he's doing it by himself- the ultimate goal.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 40389, member: 1991"] It happens to all of us. You did the right thing in giving him choices re your help with fractions. I wouldn't tell him he's being difficult, just that he has two options and it's his choice. Repeat yourself. The other problem I see, and I'm not sure what you can do about it - you're taking what he says and does too personally. Don't. Let it wash past you. You did a good thing in not nagging him; we have to do that sometimes. An alternative suggestion - write out a morning schedule for him, giving a list of what he has to do and what time it should be done by. Maybe negotiate with him about how long he thinks certain tasks will take him - give way to him on this because if HE is wrong, HE will be the one to be late. Make it clear when you give way, though, that this is HIS choice of time allowed, not yours. And if it turns out that he CAN do it and you were wrong - be prepared to say so, and congratulate him on getting it right. it won't always be that way, so let him enjoy the moment. With the schedule - we have ours on a blackboard. difficult child 3 ticks off what he's done and we rub off the ticks for next time. It really works. Instead of nagging, just a reminder of "How is your morning schedule going?" Kids like ours do much better with a written list. They don't have to hold al the info in their heads. All they have to remember is one thing - check the schedule. The fact that he ended up rushing to be ready shows that he IS motivated. THAT isn't the problem. So nagging isn't really needed, you just need him to remember to stay on task and if he uses a schedule he's doing it by himself- the ultimate goal. Marg [/QUOTE]
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