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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 750197" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Nooo. I love your posts. Almost always I agree with you. You are kind and understanding. That you post a lot is a great thing. You have changed the board for the better.</p><p></p><p> I completely understand why you post a lot. I was that way too. I am trying to limit myself to five posts a day. After more than four years! There were times years ago I posted 25 or 30 times a day on everybody's threads. I agree with you. It is therapeutic. We change by posting.</p><p>I agree with this. I do think my son has limitations. Poor coping and anxiety, for example. But he has had the most control in the world, over me. Think about it. How we love them. And how we are centered on them, their well being and loving them. Who else does this, in their world? The attention we shower. We make them important like the Pope or the President. I think they are in there. I think when they become young men they lose themselves. It's like those Russian dolls that are nested one inside another. The little dolls are in there but all you can see is the big doll. They don't know what to do or how to act either, in a way that connects to those little dolls. They are dominated too by the brutes that they have become. They can't manage either their impulses and emotions.</p><p></p><p>They have to learn how to manage (and master) themselves, and to integrate themselves, their littler Russian dolls. Sometimes they never do. But sometimes they do. I don't think we have to believe that this is permanent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 750197, member: 18958"] Nooo. I love your posts. Almost always I agree with you. You are kind and understanding. That you post a lot is a great thing. You have changed the board for the better. I completely understand why you post a lot. I was that way too. I am trying to limit myself to five posts a day. After more than four years! There were times years ago I posted 25 or 30 times a day on everybody's threads. I agree with you. It is therapeutic. We change by posting. I agree with this. I do think my son has limitations. Poor coping and anxiety, for example. But he has had the most control in the world, over me. Think about it. How we love them. And how we are centered on them, their well being and loving them. Who else does this, in their world? The attention we shower. We make them important like the Pope or the President. I think they are in there. I think when they become young men they lose themselves. It's like those Russian dolls that are nested one inside another. The little dolls are in there but all you can see is the big doll. They don't know what to do or how to act either, in a way that connects to those little dolls. They are dominated too by the brutes that they have become. They can't manage either their impulses and emotions. They have to learn how to manage (and master) themselves, and to integrate themselves, their littler Russian dolls. Sometimes they never do. But sometimes they do. I don't think we have to believe that this is permanent. [/QUOTE]
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