Not sure how to feel about any of this, just venting. Son was doing well. Kept the job, even though he really doesn’t care for it much. Had taken a half day off last week, so was up to a point and a half (they get 5) and that was all. He was so looking forward to payday tomorrow and plans on going to visit a friend from “college”. Everything was going well. Last week he began complaining a bit about his back…while at the same time admiring his newly developing biceps and abs. Then Monday he calls from the house…at 10 a.m. He left work in extreme low back pain. I took him to the ER and after 2 hours a physician’s assistant - NOT a doctor, finally looks at him…literally looks, never touches him…and says, “You’ve probably strained a muscle. Here’s drugs and an excuse for 2 days.” He barely touches the drugs. Doesn’t like them, says they do nothing but make him dizzy. Ice and pills and yesterday he’s back at work. He’d asked me to make a chiropractic appointment, so I did. He goes last night and Dr. says he needs X-rays and to get them today. Gives him another excuse for today. Son goes to the X-rays and takes them to the Dr…closed at 11 so he couldn't see him. So he now doesn’t know what to do. He’s genuinely in pain - (we expected a shot at the ER and he hates needles - if he was willing to do that, he's really hurting), he’s grouchy and he doesn’t want to make his back worse but is expected to work tomorrow. He also doesn’t want to lose his job but expects to. The day he left and went to the ER, they gave him another point! If he had called in and not shown up he wouldn’t have gotten one, because the Dr. note said to excuse him…but because he TRIED to work and left, they point him??? How stupid is that?? So he’s already up to 2 ½ points with only 3 weeks of work…he gets 5 a YEAR! He now says he’s going to visit his friend this Saturday and he won’t work overtime if they say he has to, because he simply HAS to get out of town. He doesn’t care if the long car drive makes his back worse. He doesn’t care that calling in will be 2 more points, making him have 4 ½ out of 5. He doesn’t care if they fire him. He’s going. This is irresponsible and makes me mad...but I kind of understand too. Everything seems to him to be falling apart and he just wants to have a nice weekend. Not that I agree...but I understand. On the up side, he’s mostly dropped all his friends here. He’s realized they are truly stupid kids and use him and he’s decided he has to find new ones. He even shut off his phone until I got the number changed so no one has it and can't bug him to do stuff with them. I just actually feel bad about this. He’s not at fault for his back. He’s 130 lbs, lifting boxes half his body weight repetitively, having never been a physical person. He basically went from 0 to 10 on physical labor overnight, and it was too much for him. He’s in actual pain and the Dr. is concerned he’s pinched a nerve or done something else. He’s actually been doing everything right. Working, going to counseling, being patient, trying to be more mature and change things. It actually seems like he can’t catch a break sometimes.