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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 41405" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>A point to consider - the brighter the kid, the more they compensate and the more successful they are at hiding it. It's not that they're being deceptive, it's just that their coping strategy includes copying normality, almost automatically. They can't snap out of this and turn on their disability, they have got into the habit of hiding it.</p><p></p><p>Example: difficult child 3 has done some acting, but he will only do a role which doesn't ask him to show any character flaws. He works so hard all day every day to be as good as he can be, that to deliberately portray somebody of imperfect character is too upsetting for him. He is scared that people will see him misbehaving and think that he really is like that, and he works so hard to be good. He was so upset last year about his drama class play, that he had to pull out at the last minute because his character had to be petulant and spoilt and it was just too upsetting for him to do it. And yet only a few weeks later, he was in the film as Noah, right on cue with every take. He didn't fluff his lines ONCE - but he was OK with playing Noah, because Noah was a good man, the original wildlife warrior. Even though he had to act worried at times, or anxious, he was able to do THAT - he just couldn't let himself show anything negative in other ways.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 41405, member: 1991"] A point to consider - the brighter the kid, the more they compensate and the more successful they are at hiding it. It's not that they're being deceptive, it's just that their coping strategy includes copying normality, almost automatically. They can't snap out of this and turn on their disability, they have got into the habit of hiding it. Example: difficult child 3 has done some acting, but he will only do a role which doesn't ask him to show any character flaws. He works so hard all day every day to be as good as he can be, that to deliberately portray somebody of imperfect character is too upsetting for him. He is scared that people will see him misbehaving and think that he really is like that, and he works so hard to be good. He was so upset last year about his drama class play, that he had to pull out at the last minute because his character had to be petulant and spoilt and it was just too upsetting for him to do it. And yet only a few weeks later, he was in the film as Noah, right on cue with every take. He didn't fluff his lines ONCE - but he was OK with playing Noah, because Noah was a good man, the original wildlife warrior. Even though he had to act worried at times, or anxious, he was able to do THAT - he just couldn't let himself show anything negative in other ways. Marg [/QUOTE]
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