The conversation started fine,, then started to go bad because I said I was trying to find out what specificly was ordered. He said in home services. I said what kind. He said in home services- they'll assess us. I said well, if behavior mod is ordered, this has already been determined not to be what is recommended for my son. He said in home services was recommended and ordered. I never could get a straight answer. Then he went off a bit saying I was refusing. I stopped him and said I didn't know what he'd heard but if this was in reference to mst, I had papers showing what was in my sons best interest and judge had agreed. That is not refusal or noncompliance. He said "they" thought I might be difficult to deal with (I'm sure he got that from PO). I told him there were 2 sides to every story and that she had ordered me around like I was the one on probation and that she has told me some absolutely absurd things she thought I should change regarding decisions I make for difficult child and how I parent, furthermore, she has undermined my parenting efforts in front of difficult child and does not discuss things with me about what is in my son's best interest. Then, it appeared that no one from probation knew much, if anything about the sd's MDT meeting. Apparently, what had everyone riled up was me asking for Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Well, they don't know the extent of a couple of some situations. Anyway, I explained that there were several problems and I had made a list but did not have a chance to present it Tues. Again, he said I was trying to get my son in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and hadn't tried anything else first. I said it would take more than just a therapist and I had been trying for some time but no one did anything until now and now things have deteriorated to that point. In any case, I don't have the money to wait for 2 more mos. OK, so it got better. It was left like this- he agreed (don't know if he'll follow thru) to look at PO's referral before it gets sent out and make sure the focus area of concern is Bipolar, not behavior. Then, I will let someone from in home assess us. Then it got better after I reiterated that I might still have to place my son because this could not solve problems quick enough at this point. He asked what it would take and I said full wrap around probably- my son needs mentorship and supervision, etc. He told me to call reputable, licensed places, and see if I could find a place who gives the services I want and ask if they take county funding. If they do, then call him or PO and they will ask county team if it can be funded for me to get it. He said they probably would fund it because right now, they are all worried about me trying to get difficult child out of the home. I said "Oh, Ok," He said well, are you willing to call places? I nearly choked- YES!! But, I'll be da***d if I would call PO and ask about it- I didn't tell him that, but I know what she would say. Then he said that they do realize that sometimes kids end up on probation who have mental illness and need help more than anything and really should not be over there on probation at all. He said from everything he'd seen (difficult child's file- he's never met him), my kid was not that bad. I couldn't believe it. I hope he comes to see at some point that my "pickiness" is not a refusal to deal with anyone- it's being careful about what I agree to regarding my son and having no trust in PO's decisions regarding me and my son - I did tell him that. He did acknowledge that he knew I cared for my son and wanted help for him and that I was extremely frustrated. I thanked him and told him I aprreciated him giving me names of places to call. Now, what's the vote on whether or not I can trust this guy to really get funding for services I find myself?