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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 39062" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Thanks for that reference, Heather. I'm going to look up The Anxious Child too.</p><p></p><p>FMZ, welcome. Don't be too hasty to allow Asperger's to be ruled out - keep an open mind. Some of these kids can be VERY different and hard to pinpoint. The smarter they are, the harder it is to diagnose because they use that amazing brain of theirs to adapt to 'normality' as best as they can - it's a natural thing to do, it's part of their coping strategy. For example, easy child 2/difficult child 2's doctor doesn't want to label her with Asperger's because she's very chatty with him and makes good eye contact. But as she pointed out, that's only with people she knows really well and feels safe with. She's done the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire in <a href="http://www.childbrain.com" target="_blank">http://www.childbrain.com</a> by herself, very carefully, and scores in the mild range. She wants to take the printout to her doctor and talk it through with him because SHE says she knows that she has much more than ADD.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1 had ANY form of autism ruled out when he was 6, in response to my specific query. He was finally diagnosed Asperger's when he was 15.</p><p></p><p>What HAS worked for us - we carry on, regardless, and give out kids what they seem to need. basically, we treat the symptoms and give our kids the time to adapt they do best with. We stopped trying to force them to cope at their age-equivalent level because it simply wasn't working. Now we're doing better although we cop flak from family and friends, for "molly-coddling" our kids. The thing is, it's working for us. You know the sort of thing - "You mean difficult child 1 STILL collects Star Wars figurines? That's kid stuff, he's got to learn to leave this behind and get a life in the real world."</p><p>But the Star Wars stuff is his hobby which he enjoys. It is a meeting place with other fans and gives him a sense of knowledge and accomplishment. While he's a very bright young man, in this respect he's like a 14 year old swapping football cards in the school playground. He's the knowledgeable one who knows the story behind every card.</p><p></p><p>Your 10 year old sounds fascinating. And I keep hearing about this constellation of symptoms, coupled with clumsiness, sore joints or hyperflexibility.</p><p></p><p>So welcome, hang in there and keep an open mind. You sound like you already know how to think laterally!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 39062, member: 1991"] Thanks for that reference, Heather. I'm going to look up The Anxious Child too. FMZ, welcome. Don't be too hasty to allow Asperger's to be ruled out - keep an open mind. Some of these kids can be VERY different and hard to pinpoint. The smarter they are, the harder it is to diagnose because they use that amazing brain of theirs to adapt to 'normality' as best as they can - it's a natural thing to do, it's part of their coping strategy. For example, easy child 2/difficult child 2's doctor doesn't want to label her with Asperger's because she's very chatty with him and makes good eye contact. But as she pointed out, that's only with people she knows really well and feels safe with. She's done the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire in [url="http://www.childbrain.com"]http://www.childbrain.com[/url] by herself, very carefully, and scores in the mild range. She wants to take the printout to her doctor and talk it through with him because SHE says she knows that she has much more than ADD. difficult child 1 had ANY form of autism ruled out when he was 6, in response to my specific query. He was finally diagnosed Asperger's when he was 15. What HAS worked for us - we carry on, regardless, and give out kids what they seem to need. basically, we treat the symptoms and give our kids the time to adapt they do best with. We stopped trying to force them to cope at their age-equivalent level because it simply wasn't working. Now we're doing better although we cop flak from family and friends, for "molly-coddling" our kids. The thing is, it's working for us. You know the sort of thing - "You mean difficult child 1 STILL collects Star Wars figurines? That's kid stuff, he's got to learn to leave this behind and get a life in the real world." But the Star Wars stuff is his hobby which he enjoys. It is a meeting place with other fans and gives him a sense of knowledge and accomplishment. While he's a very bright young man, in this respect he's like a 14 year old swapping football cards in the school playground. He's the knowledgeable one who knows the story behind every card. Your 10 year old sounds fascinating. And I keep hearing about this constellation of symptoms, coupled with clumsiness, sore joints or hyperflexibility. So welcome, hang in there and keep an open mind. You sound like you already know how to think laterally! Marg [/QUOTE]
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