My dad called just as I was looking for him in my contact list. Great minds think alike I guess. I apologized for hurting them, told him we would bring our house keys to them and would try to make amends for anything we did to hurt them or ruin their home. He said that unless he or mom said it that we should ignore it. I asked if he was sure because I was told he and mom were getting to old to handle things and that gfgbro was apparently supposed to be contacted to see if it was okay for us to call or visit them. He is NOT happy. Part because I was crying by them, part because he doesn't want to be in the middle of the nonsense. He HATES when I cry. I did NOT do it on purpose, I am still pretty emotional about all of this. He did make a really rude noise about gfgbro being in charge of supervising them. He will not be happy when I won't let the kids be around gfgbro, but we will deal with that later. At least now I am positive that the locks were not changed because they asked gfgbro to do it. I was pretty sure they didn't but I am never totally sure what gfgbro will tell my mom and talk her into doing. One thing I did find pretty interesting. Gfgbro has never returned anything mechanical in the shape he borrowed it in. Not since his teens. We returned my dad's car in immaculate condition. Bro made a GIANT deal out of "having" to spend a couple of hours cleaning it after we borrowed it because we would have trashed it. husband did NOT air the tires because they were properly inflated. Gfgbro is notorious for greatly overfilling tires when he checks them. He has had at least one tire blow up like a steel belted balloon as he filled it up. When Dad drove it yesterday, after gfgbro had driven it, one of the tires had a 3" bubble on it!! He was glad that their luggage got sent somewhere else because it would have added enough pressure to cause a blowout while they were driving. Once again my dad comments that there are always problems with a car after gfgbro uses it. He even asked if we had added air. gfgbro will NEVER do anything is you tell him it needs to happen. So telling him to carefully add air so you do not over-inflate the tire and weaken it means he will fill it up to double the recommended pressure and then let it out. I wish I was joking about that. I really really do. I promise in a few days I will quit rambling. This is one of the hardest things I have ever needed to do. Goes against a lifetime of training and will probably make my parents very sad that they cannot have the entire family at their bdays or Christmas. Help me not waffle. I am weak about this.