I told her I knew what was going on shouldn't be, but I didn't want to make it impossible to work with them, either, so I was seeking her direction and input. She was NOT aware of the details surrounding difficult child's half-day placement. She asked for them all. She really liked it (sarcasm) when I told her that I was given the option of half days or not going to school there when I pushed back to the principal that I didn't agree with it. She agrees this should have been a team decision; it will be going forward. She now knows the extent we went to getting the guns out of our house after the first threat, and said further threats should be ignored; wasn't impressed when I said his second suspension was for exactly that. They also told her that difficult child broke the skin when he "stabbed" the para with the scissors. I told her I did not think so, if it did, nothing was said or done about it while I was in the room. In fact, the para walked across the room and told another person in the room "he tried to stab me with the scissors". I'd think if he actually made her bleed that she'd have said "he stabbed me". She was trying to get the IEP meeting scheduled while we were still on the phone, so principal will have no doubts going forward that the team will be involved. She agrees we need to have a plan, not just principal's discretion. And that plan should include addressing the para that difficult child doesn't work well with, more so than just "outside training". There will need to be supports in place for the both of them when he first returns. She agrees. So, while nothing earth shattering is going to happen right now because of this conversation, I think it was a productive one. She's pushing the IEP thru so we, as a team, can start getting plans in place to bring difficult child back to full days and the decisions can be made by a team and not just principal.