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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 641091" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>PG, I have read some of your posts to catch up with you. First, I'm just plain sorry about difficult child and your pain and her relapse. </p><p></p><p>I'm thankful that you have had purposeful action to take over the past few weeks with Connor. I know that is good for you and for him, and ultimately, it will be good for his mother to know that he is somewhere safe.</p><p></p><p>I don't understand the horrible evil monster that is addiction. It is a 40-foot-tall monster that destroys everything and everybody in its path. </p><p></p><p>I do know that it is NOT our difficult children. They and their addiction are not the same being. But until something happens to change it, the addiction is in control. </p><p></p><p>And as long as that is the case, we can't expect anything like normal, human, rational behavior from them. It won't happen.</p><p></p><p>Their addiction is king and queen and Ruler of the Universe. Nothing else and no one else matters. </p><p></p><p>It's hard for us to fathom that, but it is true. Their addiction is located in the same place in their brains where breathing is located. Finding that out helped me a lot. I sat with that fact, let it soak in, and it helped me feel my own anger about difficult child's actions and then, for some of the intense anger to sweep away, and for some compassion to begin.</p><p></p><p>It is a dreadful mental illness. And when they are in the grip of it, they will not and cannot be responsible for people, places and things.</p><p></p><p>I know you know all of this, but it is good for me and I hope, you, to write it down and see it again.</p><p></p><p>Warm hugs to you, PG. Stay the course. Your anger is your fuel right now, and that is not a bad thing at all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 641091, member: 17542"] PG, I have read some of your posts to catch up with you. First, I'm just plain sorry about difficult child and your pain and her relapse. I'm thankful that you have had purposeful action to take over the past few weeks with Connor. I know that is good for you and for him, and ultimately, it will be good for his mother to know that he is somewhere safe. I don't understand the horrible evil monster that is addiction. It is a 40-foot-tall monster that destroys everything and everybody in its path. I do know that it is NOT our difficult children. They and their addiction are not the same being. But until something happens to change it, the addiction is in control. And as long as that is the case, we can't expect anything like normal, human, rational behavior from them. It won't happen. Their addiction is king and queen and Ruler of the Universe. Nothing else and no one else matters. It's hard for us to fathom that, but it is true. Their addiction is located in the same place in their brains where breathing is located. Finding that out helped me a lot. I sat with that fact, let it soak in, and it helped me feel my own anger about difficult child's actions and then, for some of the intense anger to sweep away, and for some compassion to begin. It is a dreadful mental illness. And when they are in the grip of it, they will not and cannot be responsible for people, places and things. I know you know all of this, but it is good for me and I hope, you, to write it down and see it again. Warm hugs to you, PG. Stay the course. Your anger is your fuel right now, and that is not a bad thing at all. [/QUOTE]
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