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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 631681" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Dalyce, it would help us remember your story and info if you put a signature at the bottom of your post, as you see we have, then we can respond better without having to go back and try to find your older posts to figure out what the facts are. You do that by going up to the upper right hand corner here and clicking on your screen name, looking for signature, writing it and making sure you save it. Thank you.</p><p></p><p>You are driving 2 hours to get lied to, manipulated and abused. It would be helpful to YOU to stop doing that. </p><p></p><p>Stop any flow of money. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I believe that is exactly what needs to happen. You are presently in relationship with his drug of choice, not your son. You can block his nasty texts and calls and let him know until he can be respectful and grateful for all you've done, you are not willing to connect with him.</p><p></p><p>You may want to consider stopping paying his rent and food, thereby making his life easier to remain an addict. He is not suffering the consequence of his behavior, YOU are. </p><p></p><p>You can make him attending that treatment center or medical facility near you as a condition of your willingness to interact with him and also to pay his rent and food if that feels right. You are enabling him. That is what needs to stop. If you haven't read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post, it may be a good idea for you to do that. </p><p></p><p>This is all very difficult to do. You will likely require a lot of support. If there are 12 step groups near you, attend them. Private therapy helps us to heal too. You'll need assistance to stay the course and learn how to put the focus back onto yourself. You'll need support to find your own joy and peace once again. Your son is robbing you and your husband of your lives, inch by inch..........only YOU can reclaim it and move towards liberation from this terrible roller coaster ride you're on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 631681, member: 13542"] Dalyce, it would help us remember your story and info if you put a signature at the bottom of your post, as you see we have, then we can respond better without having to go back and try to find your older posts to figure out what the facts are. You do that by going up to the upper right hand corner here and clicking on your screen name, looking for signature, writing it and making sure you save it. Thank you. You are driving 2 hours to get lied to, manipulated and abused. It would be helpful to YOU to stop doing that. Stop any flow of money. I believe that is exactly what needs to happen. You are presently in relationship with his drug of choice, not your son. You can block his nasty texts and calls and let him know until he can be respectful and grateful for all you've done, you are not willing to connect with him. You may want to consider stopping paying his rent and food, thereby making his life easier to remain an addict. He is not suffering the consequence of his behavior, YOU are. You can make him attending that treatment center or medical facility near you as a condition of your willingness to interact with him and also to pay his rent and food if that feels right. You are enabling him. That is what needs to stop. If you haven't read the article on detachment at the bottom of my post, it may be a good idea for you to do that. This is all very difficult to do. You will likely require a lot of support. If there are 12 step groups near you, attend them. Private therapy helps us to heal too. You'll need assistance to stay the course and learn how to put the focus back onto yourself. You'll need support to find your own joy and peace once again. Your son is robbing you and your husband of your lives, inch by inch..........only YOU can reclaim it and move towards liberation from this terrible roller coaster ride you're on. [/QUOTE]
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