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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 725496" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>in my opinion calmness and NOT crying is important or we lose our credibility with them. Rather than getting the point across, I think screaming and hysteria makes them tune us out and wonder if we are sane. I learned not to let them see me sweat.</p><p></p><p>I also learned to follow through on what I said to gain respect and credibility. This didn't mean I didn't cry alone, but not around them. Not anymore. Not for a very long time.</p><p></p><p>They don't care about our words. They don't believe them. They believe what they see us do. Not our endless threats that we don't carry out. Just like we dont believe they are going to change until we see it. Words dont have value. Actions do.</p><p></p><p>I'm a big believer in "actions speak louder than words."</p><p></p><p>You did great <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> although I would have searched his room and gotten rid of the pot. Pot isn't allowed under my roof, legal or not. I threw out much pot and cigarettes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 725496, member: 1550"] in my opinion calmness and NOT crying is important or we lose our credibility with them. Rather than getting the point across, I think screaming and hysteria makes them tune us out and wonder if we are sane. I learned not to let them see me sweat. I also learned to follow through on what I said to gain respect and credibility. This didn't mean I didn't cry alone, but not around them. Not anymore. Not for a very long time. They don't care about our words. They don't believe them. They believe what they see us do. Not our endless threats that we don't carry out. Just like we dont believe they are going to change until we see it. Words dont have value. Actions do. I'm a big believer in "actions speak louder than words." You did great :) although I would have searched his room and gotten rid of the pot. Pot isn't allowed under my roof, legal or not. I threw out much pot and cigarettes. [/QUOTE]
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