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Just when I thought I couldn't get any stupider.
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 708753" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>You know, I reread your post and signature and saw your son is an addict. I so understand why you would want to protect him (and yourself.)</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to both of you.</p><p></p><p>The thing is this: you do not know that concealing his crime is the thing that will protect him. If he is an addict he is at risk.</p><p></p><p>If you told the bank of the stolen checkbook, I believe this would be a "neutral" act. You would be only reporting a fact, an occurrence, a reality. If the worst happened, as a consequence, and it was determined your son committed the crime, he would go to jail. In jail he would likely stop drug use and he would have a chance to recover his life and sobriety.</p><p></p><p>I worked in prisons for 20 years. I saw it over and over again--incarcerated the men and women were offered an opportunity to begin again. Many did.</p><p></p><p>In the days now of adulterated drugs, it is hard to know where more risk lies, in his continuing on the streets, unfettered, or incarcerated, where he will likely get clean.</p><p></p><p>There is no good choice. That is what unites us here. Having to deal with situations that are all shades of gray, and having to choose the best of what is bad.</p><p></p><p>Whatever you decide we support you and we understand why.</p><p></p><p>I am one of the mothers here with whom others, sometimes lose patience, because of my unending desire to support my son, and to stay in the mix. I do not know what I would do in your situation, caught up in the pain and the fear of it. But because it is not "me" I can try to be clear-headed for you. I can honestly not say whether it is "best" to be clearheaded or warm-hearted in these confused and utterly painful situations.</p><p></p><p>By reading your last post, I acknowledge you for moving through this one step at a time. Stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 708753, member: 18958"] You know, I reread your post and signature and saw your son is an addict. I so understand why you would want to protect him (and yourself.) My heart goes out to both of you. The thing is this: you do not know that concealing his crime is the thing that will protect him. If he is an addict he is at risk. If you told the bank of the stolen checkbook, I believe this would be a "neutral" act. You would be only reporting a fact, an occurrence, a reality. If the worst happened, as a consequence, and it was determined your son committed the crime, he would go to jail. In jail he would likely stop drug use and he would have a chance to recover his life and sobriety. I worked in prisons for 20 years. I saw it over and over again--incarcerated the men and women were offered an opportunity to begin again. Many did. In the days now of adulterated drugs, it is hard to know where more risk lies, in his continuing on the streets, unfettered, or incarcerated, where he will likely get clean. There is no good choice. That is what unites us here. Having to deal with situations that are all shades of gray, and having to choose the best of what is bad. Whatever you decide we support you and we understand why. I am one of the mothers here with whom others, sometimes lose patience, because of my unending desire to support my son, and to stay in the mix. I do not know what I would do in your situation, caught up in the pain and the fear of it. But because it is not "me" I can try to be clear-headed for you. I can honestly not say whether it is "best" to be clearheaded or warm-hearted in these confused and utterly painful situations. By reading your last post, I acknowledge you for moving through this one step at a time. Stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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