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<blockquote data-quote="Martie" data-source="post: 9435" data-attributes="member: 284"><p>Hearthope,</p><p></p><p>Someone let me know that my account of "what worked" for my ex-difficult child from the archives had been put on this thread.</p><p></p><p>For anyone who wasn't around for my kid's 11 to 15 year old days--let me tell you, it was really bad. </p><p></p><p>I always try to say that our son's particular outcome is unusual for a difficult child because of his musical giftedness which none of us asked for or can explain--it's just there--part of him whether he is functioning well or not. However, I do strongly believe that extensive Tx starting at age 7, reaching a very intense point for 14 months of egbs, which he made excellent use of, and a good post egbs high school (one that met his needs) all made a difference.</p><p></p><p>Talent is not always easy to manage and perhaps if he had not been so gifted, he would not have fallen ill--or perhaps he would have anyway. In either event, I think that milieu Tx is the way to go for a certain type of depressed, bullied, "different," adolescent. If anyone can keep their difficult child at home through middle school and early high school, hats off to you. I know I could not have achieved at home what others achieved having him 24/7. It helps to have a similar peer group and the objectivity of people outside the family. (The particular egbs we chose had a large family therapy component also.)</p><p></p><p>My biggest disappointment is that the public schools failed my ex-difficult child in many ways when he was young and completely after 8th grade. This is one of the reasons I continue as a moderator on Sp Ed 101. I was fortunate to be able to place privately when the public schools dumped my child after 13 days of high school. I know that it is important to try to improve services for our kids when private placement is not an option.</p><p></p><p>Some days I think that my ex-difficult child is really a easy child--then he'll get into a terribly foul mood over essentially nothing--and I know I must not tempt fate: he remains at risk for depressive relapse, so I'll just say he is my beloved EX-difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Martie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Martie, post: 9435, member: 284"] Hearthope, Someone let me know that my account of "what worked" for my ex-difficult child from the archives had been put on this thread. For anyone who wasn't around for my kid's 11 to 15 year old days--let me tell you, it was really bad. I always try to say that our son's particular outcome is unusual for a difficult child because of his musical giftedness which none of us asked for or can explain--it's just there--part of him whether he is functioning well or not. However, I do strongly believe that extensive Tx starting at age 7, reaching a very intense point for 14 months of egbs, which he made excellent use of, and a good post egbs high school (one that met his needs) all made a difference. Talent is not always easy to manage and perhaps if he had not been so gifted, he would not have fallen ill--or perhaps he would have anyway. In either event, I think that milieu Tx is the way to go for a certain type of depressed, bullied, "different," adolescent. If anyone can keep their difficult child at home through middle school and early high school, hats off to you. I know I could not have achieved at home what others achieved having him 24/7. It helps to have a similar peer group and the objectivity of people outside the family. (The particular egbs we chose had a large family therapy component also.) My biggest disappointment is that the public schools failed my ex-difficult child in many ways when he was young and completely after 8th grade. This is one of the reasons I continue as a moderator on Sp Ed 101. I was fortunate to be able to place privately when the public schools dumped my child after 13 days of high school. I know that it is important to try to improve services for our kids when private placement is not an option. Some days I think that my ex-difficult child is really a easy child--then he'll get into a terribly foul mood over essentially nothing--and I know I must not tempt fate: he remains at risk for depressive relapse, so I'll just say he is my beloved EX-difficult child. Martie [/QUOTE]
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