Shari
IsItFridayYet?
Ok, so its not so much a gripe, as a just "I'm not sure how to take/what to do with this information" kinda thing.
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husband, in an act of bad luck combine with some stupidity last summer, broke the case on the transmission in his truck. To buy a new or rebuilt transmission will be well over $2k, and the truck, frankly, is just not worth that. (We both agree on this).
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The truck has now sat idle for one year. People have asked me to purchase the motor out of it (its relatively new). I've even had an offer to buy the whole truck. When I ask husband, he just clams up. Sunday, I had another offer on the motor. I called husband and asked him.
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"Oh, I don't know...." he said. I told him if he doesn't do something soon, he's gonna have a $200 scrap metal pile is what he's gonna have, cause a locked up motor won't be worth squat to anyone. I said I'd sell the truck and if the economy settles down, buy another one then (there have been several layoffs where he works), and I left it at that.
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So I asked him last night, what is his hesitation on making a move on this truck. He said "cause at least this way I have something." HUH? So he explained, this way, he's half-way got a truck. If he sells it, he has nothing.
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We have my truck, and I don't think we've had a problem in the past year coordinating the use of the one truck. I use it to pull far more than he does, but it just hasn't been a problem. I do get onto him for how he drives the truck because its a deisel and it just doesn't drive like a gas engine does - I can get 24mpg out of it, and when he drives, he gets around 15 (and I'm usually the one putting fuel in it and ALWAYS the one who fixes it) - I just can't afford to be like that - never mind that I can not afford to buy a new truck anytime soon, so I need that truck to last. My long-term goal is longevity, where he wants performance (and you see who's vehicles are still going....), so I am a little protective of it, but I don't nag him about it...he doesn't listen to me about it, anyway...June was the last time the car oil was changed, and I did it, so I feel a little justified in asking him to maintaining/take care of equipment.
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So I asked why this is important to have a second truck. With gas prices as they are, he can't possibly afford to run it up and down the highway like he used to (he can barely afford the car he drives). We have my truck for pulling camper/trailers/etc. We have the tractor to put hay out for livestock. What am I missing that makes it so dire to need another truck?
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So his answer? He snapped at me and said cause he doesn't have to watch how he drives it and he can get in and go whenever he wants.
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I'm a little paranoid that his folks' attitude will rub off on him, anyway, and I guess I was a little put off by his reply. It just didn't sound like an answer from a partner.
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Am I reading far too much into this?
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husband, in an act of bad luck combine with some stupidity last summer, broke the case on the transmission in his truck. To buy a new or rebuilt transmission will be well over $2k, and the truck, frankly, is just not worth that. (We both agree on this).
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The truck has now sat idle for one year. People have asked me to purchase the motor out of it (its relatively new). I've even had an offer to buy the whole truck. When I ask husband, he just clams up. Sunday, I had another offer on the motor. I called husband and asked him.
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"Oh, I don't know...." he said. I told him if he doesn't do something soon, he's gonna have a $200 scrap metal pile is what he's gonna have, cause a locked up motor won't be worth squat to anyone. I said I'd sell the truck and if the economy settles down, buy another one then (there have been several layoffs where he works), and I left it at that.
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So I asked him last night, what is his hesitation on making a move on this truck. He said "cause at least this way I have something." HUH? So he explained, this way, he's half-way got a truck. If he sells it, he has nothing.
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We have my truck, and I don't think we've had a problem in the past year coordinating the use of the one truck. I use it to pull far more than he does, but it just hasn't been a problem. I do get onto him for how he drives the truck because its a deisel and it just doesn't drive like a gas engine does - I can get 24mpg out of it, and when he drives, he gets around 15 (and I'm usually the one putting fuel in it and ALWAYS the one who fixes it) - I just can't afford to be like that - never mind that I can not afford to buy a new truck anytime soon, so I need that truck to last. My long-term goal is longevity, where he wants performance (and you see who's vehicles are still going....), so I am a little protective of it, but I don't nag him about it...he doesn't listen to me about it, anyway...June was the last time the car oil was changed, and I did it, so I feel a little justified in asking him to maintaining/take care of equipment.
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So I asked why this is important to have a second truck. With gas prices as they are, he can't possibly afford to run it up and down the highway like he used to (he can barely afford the car he drives). We have my truck for pulling camper/trailers/etc. We have the tractor to put hay out for livestock. What am I missing that makes it so dire to need another truck?
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So his answer? He snapped at me and said cause he doesn't have to watch how he drives it and he can get in and go whenever he wants.
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I'm a little paranoid that his folks' attitude will rub off on him, anyway, and I guess I was a little put off by his reply. It just didn't sound like an answer from a partner.
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Am I reading far too much into this?