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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 9463" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I agree that a lot of this is typical teen, probably aggravated by a sense of poor self-worth. I have to be careful about giving compliments to difficult child 3 - if they sound even slightly over-the-top he will completely dismiss the compliment as insincere. And some people insist on talking to him with exaggerated, little kid voices (very patronising) and although he no longer turns his back and walks away, I know he feels uncomfortable with this and tend to devalue anything they say to him.</p><p></p><p>difficult child 1's girlfriend is a bundle of emotions and poor self-esteem. She's part Maori, with all the benefits of those fabulous islander genes - almond eyes, high cheekbones, fabulous figure - and she hides it as much as she can. She and difficult child 1 just had some (ridiculously expensive) studio photos done and they look fabulous. But all she can see, when people are exclaiming over these glamour shots, is the spot on her chin. Hey, it looks better than Cyndi Crawford's mole! This girl can make zits into a fashion statement - but her self-esteem is rock bottom. And she's a easy child.</p><p></p><p>brother in law has a problem with seeing his fabulous-looking niece in a bikini? brother in law should shut up and grow up, those remarks are NOT helping her one little bit. Sounds to me like he's having trouble accepting that the little girl has adult assets because she's heading fast into adulthood. You can't shove the young lady back into a pre-teen box.</p><p></p><p>Reminds me of when my best friend's daughter (same age as your daughter) was sunbaking in a bikini beside the church (which is on the beach). A male church member who was doing some repairs walked past and commented to the mother, "Wow! Your daughter is looking really sexy in that bikini - I suppose you're fighting the boys off with a stick?" while his OWN tongue was clearly hanging out. The mother was not impressed - yes, the girl looked good in a bikini but from a man who was close enough to the family to be a father figure, the comment was worrying.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 9463, member: 1991"] I agree that a lot of this is typical teen, probably aggravated by a sense of poor self-worth. I have to be careful about giving compliments to difficult child 3 - if they sound even slightly over-the-top he will completely dismiss the compliment as insincere. And some people insist on talking to him with exaggerated, little kid voices (very patronising) and although he no longer turns his back and walks away, I know he feels uncomfortable with this and tend to devalue anything they say to him. difficult child 1's girlfriend is a bundle of emotions and poor self-esteem. She's part Maori, with all the benefits of those fabulous islander genes - almond eyes, high cheekbones, fabulous figure - and she hides it as much as she can. She and difficult child 1 just had some (ridiculously expensive) studio photos done and they look fabulous. But all she can see, when people are exclaiming over these glamour shots, is the spot on her chin. Hey, it looks better than Cyndi Crawford's mole! This girl can make zits into a fashion statement - but her self-esteem is rock bottom. And she's a easy child. brother in law has a problem with seeing his fabulous-looking niece in a bikini? brother in law should shut up and grow up, those remarks are NOT helping her one little bit. Sounds to me like he's having trouble accepting that the little girl has adult assets because she's heading fast into adulthood. You can't shove the young lady back into a pre-teen box. Reminds me of when my best friend's daughter (same age as your daughter) was sunbaking in a bikini beside the church (which is on the beach). A male church member who was doing some repairs walked past and commented to the mother, "Wow! Your daughter is looking really sexy in that bikini - I suppose you're fighting the boys off with a stick?" while his OWN tongue was clearly hanging out. The mother was not impressed - yes, the girl looked good in a bikini but from a man who was close enough to the family to be a father figure, the comment was worrying. Marg [/QUOTE]
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