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Kicked my 23 yr. old son out - was I wrong?
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<blockquote data-quote="Estranged2015" data-source="post: 648333" data-attributes="member: 18760"><p>Hi, SeaGenie. I wanted to let you know that I think you are doing great. Even in your post full of difficult things, you have shown me good ways to respond and think about all this stuff that happens.it is uncanny how alike our children are – except that mine has actually already done three prison The first time for a week, the second time for several months, the third time for a full year. He is 28. Right now he's only out because he has made some kind of a deal with the police, where he will inform for them, very dangerous I'm sure. Even if he succeeds, he will still have to do some more prison time, just not the years that are otherwise coming to him. He too has met a young lady who is capable in practical ways and takes care of him, but is also a drug user. I am sure that they both use a variety of street drugs. And now she is expecting a baby.</p><p></p><p>Before I started listening to the people on the site, just about a week ago. I still thought that I was supposed to be doing something and had been making some mistake that I couldn't identify. I thought it was all my fault.my son did a lot to intensify that belief, and he is a past-master at this gaslighting thing – a perfect description of his ways of dealing with me.</p><p></p><p> He obviously has an untreated mental illness, and of course I worry about his future. But I am learning, slowly, that there really isn't anything I can do about it.saving him is a very hard habit to break. I knocked myself out a lot saving him when he was small, and even when he was younger man, but it's not possible to fool myself about that any longer.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, all that is mainly just to say that I think you are way ahead already, and applaud you for your ability to deal realistically with your difficult child. Good for you.</p><p></p><p>Where do you live? For some reason I can't see the introduction stuff on my sale phone tonight. I'm in Philadelphia and would be happy to meet up if you want to. I have been finding it very difficult to get out of the house, one day even to get out of bed, as this is been so traumatic. But I am determined to pick myself up, if only because I have to keep my job!</p><p></p><p>Be well. And make your house more secure – he should not be able to get in.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Estranged2015, post: 648333, member: 18760"] Hi, SeaGenie. I wanted to let you know that I think you are doing great. Even in your post full of difficult things, you have shown me good ways to respond and think about all this stuff that happens.it is uncanny how alike our children are – except that mine has actually already done three prison The first time for a week, the second time for several months, the third time for a full year. He is 28. Right now he's only out because he has made some kind of a deal with the police, where he will inform for them, very dangerous I'm sure. Even if he succeeds, he will still have to do some more prison time, just not the years that are otherwise coming to him. He too has met a young lady who is capable in practical ways and takes care of him, but is also a drug user. I am sure that they both use a variety of street drugs. And now she is expecting a baby. Before I started listening to the people on the site, just about a week ago. I still thought that I was supposed to be doing something and had been making some mistake that I couldn't identify. I thought it was all my fault.my son did a lot to intensify that belief, and he is a past-master at this gaslighting thing – a perfect description of his ways of dealing with me. He obviously has an untreated mental illness, and of course I worry about his future. But I am learning, slowly, that there really isn't anything I can do about it.saving him is a very hard habit to break. I knocked myself out a lot saving him when he was small, and even when he was younger man, but it's not possible to fool myself about that any longer. Anyway, all that is mainly just to say that I think you are way ahead already, and applaud you for your ability to deal realistically with your difficult child. Good for you. Where do you live? For some reason I can't see the introduction stuff on my sale phone tonight. I'm in Philadelphia and would be happy to meet up if you want to. I have been finding it very difficult to get out of the house, one day even to get out of bed, as this is been so traumatic. But I am determined to pick myself up, if only because I have to keep my job! Be well. And make your house more secure – he should not be able to get in. [/QUOTE]
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