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Kicked out of Rehab, now What!!?
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 649872" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Oh LMS1 I so so feel for you and know what you are going through. My son has been in so many programs and rehabs and sober houses and been kicked out so many times I have lost count! I do think every time he did learn something but man it has been one heck of a road. Where we got to is that we will help him if he is doing the next right thing and helping himself and we wont if he is not. He knows he cant live here. So his pattern was to get kicked out, then be on his own somehow (including spending several months on the street) until he finally was willing to get help and then he would end up in a progam do well for a while to then get kicked out again. I have finally really gotten to the point this is his journey, not my journey. He has to de decide what is best for him and I have to let go and not try to convince him of anything... but of course being clear with my boundaries and when and how I am willing to help. He is now living across the country, has a job and seems to be doing better than he has in a long time. He is not in a program and I am pretty sure he is not completely sober.... but I think he is losing less than he has in the past. I dont really know but he is working full time nad overall seems like he is in a better place. He has not gotten into any real trouble (that I am aware of since he has been out there which is huge).</p><p></p><p>So I think you are doing the right thing.... he needs to find his way. If he comes to for real help to find treatment you can help him do that but I wouldnt have him live with you, or give him cash.</p><p></p><p>I know how heartbreaking this is and I am sorry you are going through this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 649872, member: 15801"] Oh LMS1 I so so feel for you and know what you are going through. My son has been in so many programs and rehabs and sober houses and been kicked out so many times I have lost count! I do think every time he did learn something but man it has been one heck of a road. Where we got to is that we will help him if he is doing the next right thing and helping himself and we wont if he is not. He knows he cant live here. So his pattern was to get kicked out, then be on his own somehow (including spending several months on the street) until he finally was willing to get help and then he would end up in a progam do well for a while to then get kicked out again. I have finally really gotten to the point this is his journey, not my journey. He has to de decide what is best for him and I have to let go and not try to convince him of anything... but of course being clear with my boundaries and when and how I am willing to help. He is now living across the country, has a job and seems to be doing better than he has in a long time. He is not in a program and I am pretty sure he is not completely sober.... but I think he is losing less than he has in the past. I dont really know but he is working full time nad overall seems like he is in a better place. He has not gotten into any real trouble (that I am aware of since he has been out there which is huge). So I think you are doing the right thing.... he needs to find his way. If he comes to for real help to find treatment you can help him do that but I wouldnt have him live with you, or give him cash. I know how heartbreaking this is and I am sorry you are going through this. [/QUOTE]
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