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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 693789" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am confused. I guess Patrick is an old thread and Sea66, the new one. Sea, I too, encourage you to begin your own new thread. I will watch for it</p><p>This has got to stop, because it is horrible that you endure it, and it will not help your son, who has free choice. </p><p></p><p>The more you stand up and go and fight for yourself to have the best possible life, the more there is a chance your son will perk up and smell the roses in his own life. None of us was the perfect mother or perfect parent. None of us had perfect parents. We are responsible for our own lives nonetheless. Every.single.one.of.us. Your son (and mine too) included.</p><p>This is crazy making. I kicked out my 23 year son who was mentally, ill sick with hepatitis, brain-injured--out to the street. Actually, then, I did not doubt my decision, because I could not take more. </p><p></p><p>He is getting better, little by little (now 27) and living with us again. Who is to say being kicked out isn't what gave him a chance? Who will ever know? The thing is--your son is responsible now, for his life--no matter what happened or did not. The only one who can change it is he.</p><p>I agree with Feeling, here. Adult children need limits, every bit as much as they did when they were tiny. </p><p></p><p>Your suffering will not make one bit of difference. I hope you stay here and keep posting. It really, really helps. </p><p></p><p>First, try to disengage a bit from your son. Do not let him abuse you. Whining and blaming you is a form of abuse. It does not help him!!! Set a limit. And surely it is not good for you. </p><p></p><p>Remember: We did the very best we could. And when we knew better, we did better.</p><p></p><p>Here on this site you will learn how to do better FOR YOU. Right now, it is you who matters. Your son will take care of himself. It is his turn, now, to step up. Take care of yourself. He will notice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 693789, member: 18958"] I am confused. I guess Patrick is an old thread and Sea66, the new one. Sea, I too, encourage you to begin your own new thread. I will watch for it This has got to stop, because it is horrible that you endure it, and it will not help your son, who has free choice. The more you stand up and go and fight for yourself to have the best possible life, the more there is a chance your son will perk up and smell the roses in his own life. None of us was the perfect mother or perfect parent. None of us had perfect parents. We are responsible for our own lives nonetheless. Every.single.one.of.us. Your son (and mine too) included. This is crazy making. I kicked out my 23 year son who was mentally, ill sick with hepatitis, brain-injured--out to the street. Actually, then, I did not doubt my decision, because I could not take more. He is getting better, little by little (now 27) and living with us again. Who is to say being kicked out isn't what gave him a chance? Who will ever know? The thing is--your son is responsible now, for his life--no matter what happened or did not. The only one who can change it is he. I agree with Feeling, here. Adult children need limits, every bit as much as they did when they were tiny. Your suffering will not make one bit of difference. I hope you stay here and keep posting. It really, really helps. First, try to disengage a bit from your son. Do not let him abuse you. Whining and blaming you is a form of abuse. It does not help him!!! Set a limit. And surely it is not good for you. Remember: We did the very best we could. And when we knew better, we did better. Here on this site you will learn how to do better FOR YOU. Right now, it is you who matters. Your son will take care of himself. It is his turn, now, to step up. Take care of yourself. He will notice. [/QUOTE]
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