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Kicking 18 year old stepson out
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 735157" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi CSMom and welcome to CD. I am so sorry for all the troubles that have brought you here.</p><p>It is an all too familiar story to me and many others. The personality changes, weed and alcohol and God only knows what else. Sneaking around, refusing to follow rules, disrespectful. It is harder when there are littles involved, watching and learning.</p><p>How can anyone continue to live with it?</p><p>Your house, your rules.</p><p>I had my daughter leave at 18, very similar circumstances. She was working, but partying and staying out all night, sleeping most of the day when she was off. Smoking pot and drinking. She was moody and sullen at home around family.</p><p> It just kept getting worse.</p><p>Like we were a hotel.</p><p>She didn’t want to follow house rules.</p><p>So, out she went.</p><p>I don’t like to call it “kicked out” because if she followed rules and helped around, acted like part of the family, she was welcome to stay. She made choices that made it impossible for her to continue living with us.</p><p>It is hard when our kids grow up and go off the rails. You didn’t cause it, can’t control it or change it. Most of us went through a time wrestling with guilt and blaming ourselves, but the reality is that people make choices.</p><p>It doesn’t mean that your son will be like this forever, but for now, it is too much for your household.</p><p>There are programs available, but he has to recognize there is a problem. I am sorry for your heartache and how difficult this is. You are doing the right thing in protecting your home and your littles.</p><p>What you can do is get help for you. Al anon or naranon groups, counseling, reading up on addiction and how it effects families. All these things help to get your strength back and focus on what you can control. It is important to take very good care of yourself and be mindful of your feelings and health. The stress and anxiety dealing with this is extremely hard.</p><p>Do take care and let us know how you are doing.</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 735157, member: 19522"] Hi CSMom and welcome to CD. I am so sorry for all the troubles that have brought you here. It is an all too familiar story to me and many others. The personality changes, weed and alcohol and God only knows what else. Sneaking around, refusing to follow rules, disrespectful. It is harder when there are littles involved, watching and learning. How can anyone continue to live with it? Your house, your rules. I had my daughter leave at 18, very similar circumstances. She was working, but partying and staying out all night, sleeping most of the day when she was off. Smoking pot and drinking. She was moody and sullen at home around family. It just kept getting worse. Like we were a hotel. She didn’t want to follow house rules. So, out she went. I don’t like to call it “kicked out” because if she followed rules and helped around, acted like part of the family, she was welcome to stay. She made choices that made it impossible for her to continue living with us. It is hard when our kids grow up and go off the rails. You didn’t cause it, can’t control it or change it. Most of us went through a time wrestling with guilt and blaming ourselves, but the reality is that people make choices. It doesn’t mean that your son will be like this forever, but for now, it is too much for your household. There are programs available, but he has to recognize there is a problem. I am sorry for your heartache and how difficult this is. You are doing the right thing in protecting your home and your littles. What you can do is get help for you. Al anon or naranon groups, counseling, reading up on addiction and how it effects families. All these things help to get your strength back and focus on what you can control. It is important to take very good care of yourself and be mindful of your feelings and health. The stress and anxiety dealing with this is extremely hard. Do take care and let us know how you are doing. (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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