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Kicking 18 year old stepson out
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 735280" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi CSM, Welcome to our little corner of the world. I'm glad you found us but sorry you had to.</p><p></p><p>Your story is a common one. So many times our young adults start to stretch their wings by trying drugs and alcohol. While your stepson is 18 and a legal adult he lacks maturity. </p><p></p><p>I think you did the best thing you could by "liberating him" from your home. As for his comment that you don't know how to be a parent, well let's just say that's not the first time that statement has been made by a difficult adult child. It's very common for these "adult kids" to blame us the parents. It's much easier to transfer their anger to us. It's much easier for them to blame us than to accept the reality that they have made poor choices.</p><p></p><p>You are putting the safety of your home and younger children first as it should be.</p><p></p><p>Be prepared for him to lash out even more, or the opposite, to be apologetic and remorseful. These can be manipulation tactics. When our difficult adult children feel desperate they will sometimes try and guilt us or manipulate us into "helping" them.</p><p></p><p>Clear boundaries are what have saved so many of us here from getting sucked back into their vortex of chaos.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 735280, member: 18516"] Hi CSM, Welcome to our little corner of the world. I'm glad you found us but sorry you had to. Your story is a common one. So many times our young adults start to stretch their wings by trying drugs and alcohol. While your stepson is 18 and a legal adult he lacks maturity. I think you did the best thing you could by "liberating him" from your home. As for his comment that you don't know how to be a parent, well let's just say that's not the first time that statement has been made by a difficult adult child. It's very common for these "adult kids" to blame us the parents. It's much easier to transfer their anger to us. It's much easier for them to blame us than to accept the reality that they have made poor choices. You are putting the safety of your home and younger children first as it should be. Be prepared for him to lash out even more, or the opposite, to be apologetic and remorseful. These can be manipulation tactics. When our difficult adult children feel desperate they will sometimes try and guilt us or manipulate us into "helping" them. Clear boundaries are what have saved so many of us here from getting sucked back into their vortex of chaos. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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