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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 626256" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Christian Mom, I'm sorry. I know the shock and pain you feel when you realize your own child is stealing from you. </p><p></p><p>My son has stolen from me, his dad and our neighbors multiple times. He stole from one employer and got caught. Those are just the times we know about.</p><p></p><p>Drug addicts steal. They steal to get money to buy drugs. It's just what they do.</p><p></p><p>I know this may sound funny, but it's not personal. It's not about us, any of it. It's about them and their disease. The disease is a 40-foot-tall monster that mows down everything in its path, including our difficult children.</p><p></p><p>And it will keep on doing that until our difficult children are so sick and tired of their lives that they want to change more than they want to take drugs. It has to get really, really bad for that to happen, because they want the drugs like they want to keep breathing.</p><p></p><p>Today, I was at the post office, and I ran into my difficult child's elementary school principal. He volunteers at the workhouse here (step down from jail). I told him about difficult child and I thanked him for his work with nonviolent offenders. I told him that difficult child had been at the workhouse a couple of times but that now he is back in the "big jail" again. </p><p></p><p>He was so kind and compassionate. He understands addiction. He knows me from when I was President of the PTA there. He knows what a persistent person I am. I told him, we've tried everything and not one thing has helped. He said that's right, nothing will until he wants to change. It was a very nice thing to run into him. He is a good, caring man. </p><p></p><p>Christian Mom, the sooner you stop enabling your son, detach from him with love, start accepting him for who he is today, and start taking care of yourself, the better off you will be. You can and will find joy, contentment, peace, serenity and happiness even if he still does what he is doing today. I don't describe these steps easily. They are the hardest work you will ever do in your life. </p><p></p><p>But what you're doing right now is even harder. And it's not helping anybody. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and prayers and blessings to you tonight. Keep reading this site. Start making a list of daily tools you can use to "get your mind right" and start taking care of yourself. If you do the work, you will change over time, and you will be a much happier person than you are today.</p><p></p><p>It's about us. It's not about them anymore. They have to live their own lives and make their own mistakes. We can't save them from themselves.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 626256, member: 17542"] Christian Mom, I'm sorry. I know the shock and pain you feel when you realize your own child is stealing from you. My son has stolen from me, his dad and our neighbors multiple times. He stole from one employer and got caught. Those are just the times we know about. Drug addicts steal. They steal to get money to buy drugs. It's just what they do. I know this may sound funny, but it's not personal. It's not about us, any of it. It's about them and their disease. The disease is a 40-foot-tall monster that mows down everything in its path, including our difficult children. And it will keep on doing that until our difficult children are so sick and tired of their lives that they want to change more than they want to take drugs. It has to get really, really bad for that to happen, because they want the drugs like they want to keep breathing. Today, I was at the post office, and I ran into my difficult child's elementary school principal. He volunteers at the workhouse here (step down from jail). I told him about difficult child and I thanked him for his work with nonviolent offenders. I told him that difficult child had been at the workhouse a couple of times but that now he is back in the "big jail" again. He was so kind and compassionate. He understands addiction. He knows me from when I was President of the PTA there. He knows what a persistent person I am. I told him, we've tried everything and not one thing has helped. He said that's right, nothing will until he wants to change. It was a very nice thing to run into him. He is a good, caring man. Christian Mom, the sooner you stop enabling your son, detach from him with love, start accepting him for who he is today, and start taking care of yourself, the better off you will be. You can and will find joy, contentment, peace, serenity and happiness even if he still does what he is doing today. I don't describe these steps easily. They are the hardest work you will ever do in your life. But what you're doing right now is even harder. And it's not helping anybody. Hugs and prayers and blessings to you tonight. Keep reading this site. Start making a list of daily tools you can use to "get your mind right" and start taking care of yourself. If you do the work, you will change over time, and you will be a much happier person than you are today. It's about us. It's not about them anymore. They have to live their own lives and make their own mistakes. We can't save them from themselves. [/QUOTE]
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