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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 626317" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Hi SLA and welcome. I'm sorry you're dealing with the situation you describe. When you get a chance, please write a signature so we can know more about the ages of your son and daughter, etc. It helps when responding.</p><p></p><p>But, based on what you said, I would tell your son the gig is up. You don't have to say how you know. I think we make the mistake often (I know I have done this a lot) of feeling we have to explain and give all kinds of reasons and proof and....in short...throw a lot of words at the situation. </p><p></p><p>We don't. You can simply tell your son that you know he smoked pot at your house and brought a friend over that you all had agreed was not welcome. You know he did it, and he knows he did it. You don't have to prove anything. And now he will have to move out. I would give him a timeline and stick to it.</p><p></p><p>If you don't, you are just teaching him that you don't mean what you say.</p><p></p><p>When he starts to ask questions, throw a lot of excuses, reasons and stuff back at you, simply say: I don't want to talk about this anymore. You need to be moved out by X. Whatever X is. </p><p></p><p>I would not mention his sister's name. Keep the drama down as much as possible.</p><p></p><p>If his sister tells him she told you, that is her deal and not yours. </p><p></p><p>SLA, you can't fix their relationship. You can't fix him. You can't fix anybody but you. </p><p></p><p>Put it to a halt. Claim your peace and your home. You have a right to do that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 626317, member: 17542"] Hi SLA and welcome. I'm sorry you're dealing with the situation you describe. When you get a chance, please write a signature so we can know more about the ages of your son and daughter, etc. It helps when responding. But, based on what you said, I would tell your son the gig is up. You don't have to say how you know. I think we make the mistake often (I know I have done this a lot) of feeling we have to explain and give all kinds of reasons and proof and....in short...throw a lot of words at the situation. We don't. You can simply tell your son that you know he smoked pot at your house and brought a friend over that you all had agreed was not welcome. You know he did it, and he knows he did it. You don't have to prove anything. And now he will have to move out. I would give him a timeline and stick to it. If you don't, you are just teaching him that you don't mean what you say. When he starts to ask questions, throw a lot of excuses, reasons and stuff back at you, simply say: I don't want to talk about this anymore. You need to be moved out by X. Whatever X is. I would not mention his sister's name. Keep the drama down as much as possible. If his sister tells him she told you, that is her deal and not yours. SLA, you can't fix their relationship. You can't fix him. You can't fix anybody but you. Put it to a halt. Claim your peace and your home. You have a right to do that. [/QUOTE]
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