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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 626327" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My own opinion?</p><p></p><p>I would kick him out. Your house, your rules. Nobody has a right to smoke dope or do other drugs or even smoke a cigarette in your house if you have specifically told them it is against the rules in YOUR house and you have given them chances. In fact, your son needs to find out the hard facts of life so he will maybe cut out the drugs.</p><p></p><p>The relationship between his sister and him is in my opinion irrelevant in this. If his sister cares about him, she would tell you. If he is too wasted to see that she was worried about either him or the consequencses of cops seeing him doing this IN YOUR BACK YARD and possibly charging you as well as him with a crime then it is just too bad. He won't have a good relationship with a responsible sister. It was bound to deteriorate anyway and is not as important as your son's blatant defiance of you and your house rules AND his own safety, health, welfare and lifestyle.</p><p></p><p>The sibling thing is not as important as stopping the enabling of this defiant son. How old is he? Does he work? Does he do chores for you? Is he respectful? Did he finish high school? Does he cuss you out, get in your face, call you names, even shove you or worse? Are you sometimes afraid of him? Does he steal? If you said "yes" to most or even half of these questions, I would not allow him to live at home. He has to contribute in a positive way in my opinion if he is an adult still living at home. He should also pay rent and you should cut off the cell phone, the internet for him, car insurance...heck, I wouldn't let my daughter drive our cars. She had been in three car crashes while high, but two were her friend's cars because after the first time she never drove our car again and we hid our keys. We did eventually kick her out. She did quit all drugs, even cigarettes, but that is another and happier story. But we did not help her quit...nor did she even tell us when she decided to do it. Today we are very close.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and don't be afraid of him. Also, in my opinion, your husband is being beyond ridiculous. How can this sibling relationship matter more than your son's dangerous activities?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 626327, member: 1550"] My own opinion? I would kick him out. Your house, your rules. Nobody has a right to smoke dope or do other drugs or even smoke a cigarette in your house if you have specifically told them it is against the rules in YOUR house and you have given them chances. In fact, your son needs to find out the hard facts of life so he will maybe cut out the drugs. The relationship between his sister and him is in my opinion irrelevant in this. If his sister cares about him, she would tell you. If he is too wasted to see that she was worried about either him or the consequencses of cops seeing him doing this IN YOUR BACK YARD and possibly charging you as well as him with a crime then it is just too bad. He won't have a good relationship with a responsible sister. It was bound to deteriorate anyway and is not as important as your son's blatant defiance of you and your house rules AND his own safety, health, welfare and lifestyle. The sibling thing is not as important as stopping the enabling of this defiant son. How old is he? Does he work? Does he do chores for you? Is he respectful? Did he finish high school? Does he cuss you out, get in your face, call you names, even shove you or worse? Are you sometimes afraid of him? Does he steal? If you said "yes" to most or even half of these questions, I would not allow him to live at home. He has to contribute in a positive way in my opinion if he is an adult still living at home. He should also pay rent and you should cut off the cell phone, the internet for him, car insurance...heck, I wouldn't let my daughter drive our cars. She had been in three car crashes while high, but two were her friend's cars because after the first time she never drove our car again and we hid our keys. We did eventually kick her out. She did quit all drugs, even cigarettes, but that is another and happier story. But we did not help her quit...nor did she even tell us when she decided to do it. Today we are very close. Good luck and don't be afraid of him. Also, in my opinion, your husband is being beyond ridiculous. How can this sibling relationship matter more than your son's dangerous activities? [/QUOTE]
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