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difficult child 1 didn't get to go - threw a massive "meltdown" and hit his sister. Since there is a NO PHYSICAL VIOLENCE requirement in our house IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM as well as calling me an "f-ing b-word", he was not allowed to attend. Their father came over to watch him as well as Evie (the music at large parties is traditionally really loud and I didn't think she'd enjoy herself).
As a sidebar: he and difficult child 1 did some major talking together - so it worked out in the end.
I knew that difficult child 2 & 3 wouldn't do to well in the ceremony itself, the boys mom told me to only take them to the party after (he son's a major "black and white" aspie - we got to be really good friends when I was helping her through a lot of the school business).
What a fantastic time we all had!
I must admit, as a plump little Irish-German Catholic, newly seperated, a melted-down difficult child at home with someone he's afraid of, walking in 1/2 hour late for a reception for an event that you have no idea how it works is just a teensy-bit intimidating - but I was determined to get these kids to have a great time.
There was a HUGE kid table and I was seated with people I had never seen or heard of. They were a BLAST! Special needs parents are a panic! How I wish I could have met up with you guys in '09!
The whole thing was targeted primarily toward the kids. There was singing, dancing, games, jokes and (aside from the delicious eggplant rolatini, baked ziti, stuffed filet of sole, beef with broccoli, veal marsala and lemon chicken) there were hot dogs, hamburgers, chicken nuggets and fries. Every kid in the place was glowing! Across from that buffet table there were bowls and bowls of different salads and all the stuff to put on them, grilled vegetable platters, fruit platters, cheese platters and a carving station. Everything that I had was delicious (I don't know if it was because it was cooked beautifully OR just because I didn't have to cook).
The kids played more games with the DJ and they had a woman out in the hall doing charactures. difficult child 2 and 3 LOVED it.
They served cake and coffee and then Voila! more kid stuff: a candy table with homemade ice cream sundaes and cookie platters and fruit. OMG! These kids ate and ate and ate all afternoon.
While I missed difficult child 1 - it was great to have the other two out for a while without trauma and drama or diapers (I missed Evie too-she's such a fun little kid!). difficult child 2 was worried about me sitting without anyone and kept checking on me to see if I was ok. It was sweet.
Dreaded having to dress up and go out, but so glad I went. There's a whole new world out there and we're going at it with gusto!
Beth
As a sidebar: he and difficult child 1 did some major talking together - so it worked out in the end.
I knew that difficult child 2 & 3 wouldn't do to well in the ceremony itself, the boys mom told me to only take them to the party after (he son's a major "black and white" aspie - we got to be really good friends when I was helping her through a lot of the school business).
What a fantastic time we all had!
I must admit, as a plump little Irish-German Catholic, newly seperated, a melted-down difficult child at home with someone he's afraid of, walking in 1/2 hour late for a reception for an event that you have no idea how it works is just a teensy-bit intimidating - but I was determined to get these kids to have a great time.
There was a HUGE kid table and I was seated with people I had never seen or heard of. They were a BLAST! Special needs parents are a panic! How I wish I could have met up with you guys in '09!
The whole thing was targeted primarily toward the kids. There was singing, dancing, games, jokes and (aside from the delicious eggplant rolatini, baked ziti, stuffed filet of sole, beef with broccoli, veal marsala and lemon chicken) there were hot dogs, hamburgers, chicken nuggets and fries. Every kid in the place was glowing! Across from that buffet table there were bowls and bowls of different salads and all the stuff to put on them, grilled vegetable platters, fruit platters, cheese platters and a carving station. Everything that I had was delicious (I don't know if it was because it was cooked beautifully OR just because I didn't have to cook).
The kids played more games with the DJ and they had a woman out in the hall doing charactures. difficult child 2 and 3 LOVED it.
They served cake and coffee and then Voila! more kid stuff: a candy table with homemade ice cream sundaes and cookie platters and fruit. OMG! These kids ate and ate and ate all afternoon.
While I missed difficult child 1 - it was great to have the other two out for a while without trauma and drama or diapers (I missed Evie too-she's such a fun little kid!). difficult child 2 was worried about me sitting without anyone and kept checking on me to see if I was ok. It was sweet.
Dreaded having to dress up and go out, but so glad I went. There's a whole new world out there and we're going at it with gusto!
Beth
