Hi Everyone, I haven't posted in a while. Things had settled down quite a bit, and although 28-year-old son is still addicted to heroin, he's somehow keeping it together, still has his job, and has been keeping up with his parole obligations. So now after him living here for 18 months and his wife and two kids being here for over a year, they're moving to their own apartment this weekend. I had kicked him out once this winter after finding out he'd been shooting up heroin in our bathroom, but after he "rode the rails" for a couple of weeks, my daughter-in-law asked if we would let him come back to live. It was during a bitterly cold time with blizzard conditions, and husband and I relented. I knew it was a cardinal sin according to most people, but we just did it. We did set up the expectation that they would move when the weather got better, and now it's springtime and they're leaving! So husband and I and our younger son (now 18) are glad to be getting our household and privacy back to some kind of normalcy. I told older son and daughter-in-law that I would miss them but was glad they are getting their lives back together. They're only 7 blocks away, so not that far and I'm sure we'll see them often. The mixed feelings part comes out of my lingering co-dependency, I'm sure. My son is still not recovered from the heroin addiction, and gets high every couple of weeks or so on his payday. Even a week ago, he was on the back porch pacing back and forth, higher than a kite, and really out of it. My husband made him come back inside (son smokes out there) so he wouldn't fall down the stairs. It's the third-floor landing. Husband asked if he was high, son said, "No, I'm fine," and then went back outside. I woke up daughter in law and she was able to get him to come in and go to sleep. I'm worried about the kids (ages 4 and 6). My daughter in law works on weekends and son watches the kids. I feel like them being here provided a measure of security since we could take over if son was non-functional on a particular day. But who knows what will go on at their place? But again, as I remind myself, we didn't have anything to do with their comings and goings before they all moved back here, so why should I worry about it now? I'd like to be able to have occasional visits with the grandkids without other drama. I guess we'll just play it by ear and hope for the best with them. Now husband and I have an empty bedroom that we're going to turn into an office and hobby area. That part is exciting! The kids (old and young) are happy about moving. I just need to get out of my worry rut and get on with my life.