I have been waiting for my mother to try to manipulate me into "forgiving" gfgbro. It is very much out of character for her to let me set boundaries and stick with them with-o trying to force me or manipulate me into changing them. Wiz turned 19 this week. He has NEVER had any liking or respect for gfgbro, not even when he was a little kid. His biggest pet peeve about living with my parents is that gfgbro is in and out of their house all the time - and gfgbro NEVER calls before he comes by. Drives Wiz crazy and always has. Wiz has even had to go toe to toe with gfgbro about gfgbro staying out of Wiz' room! My mom had the audacity to tell husband that ALL Wiz wants for his birthday if for his mother and his uncle to "bury the hatchet" and celebrate his birthday together as a "whole family". She didn't have the cajones to say this to ME, just to husband because husband will not laugh at her. I left a message for Wiz, and will call him later this weekend about it, but as Wiz had begged for YEARS to not have to do anything with gfgbro, I seriously doubt that any words similar to what my mother said are true. IF Wiz said them it was in a moment of extreme sarcasm or because my mother put a gigantic amount of pressure on him so he said what she wanted to hear. Unless she is specific with me, I am not going to discuss it because it is NONE of her business unless I am rude or ugly to someone in her home. I won't be, I just won't be there with him. If that means my parents won't celebrate holidays with me, that is THEIR choice and I am okay with it. I am glad that she didn't catch us off guard, or back us into any corners. And that I have you all to support me as I move into a healthier life and relationships!