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<blockquote data-quote="Feeling Sad" data-source="post: 676302" data-attributes="member: 19245"><p>Acacia, welcome to this site. I joined 9 months ago and it has been a Godsend. I received supportive words of encouragement that kept me from falling apart.</p><p></p><p>I completely empathize with your fear of aggressive men after being abused as a child.</p><p></p><p>My life was threatened by my schizophrenic sister when I was 11. My parents did not protect me because they were very overwhelmed.</p><p></p><p>I then married an abusive Vietnam vet. I tried to help him and stayed over 12 years. I numbed out the fear...ptsd.</p><p></p><p>My eldest son unfortunately became schizophrenic. I tried to help him for 9 years. I felt helpless due to my childhood trauma. I lived in fear. Last June, I had to file a restraining order because he held a broken bottle to my throat and argued with his voices about not wanting to kill me.</p><p></p><p>My childhood trauma put me, finally, into survival mode. Trust your gut instinct. Be kind to yourself. Do not push yourself beyond what you are able to do.</p><p></p><p>Yes, you love your son, but you fear him. I am going through the same thing. Yes, I miss him. But, my younger son and I need to be safe...both physically AND emotionally. You also need to feel safe in your own home.</p><p></p><p>When you feel that you are ready, you will open his letter. It could be days or months. You are, rightfully, trying to protect yourself from any verbal, emotional, or physical abuse or trauma. There is no rush. You might have a trusted friend read it silently and supply you an edited version with only important facts.</p><p></p><p>Do kind things for yourself. Try to relax and go out into Nature. Watch funny movies or see upbeat friends.</p><p></p><p>You are doing the right thing in setting up boundaries. It is sending him a message of what behavior you will allow. He knows that you love him.</p><p></p><p>I am a special education teacher. It is called behavior modification.</p><p></p><p>Go with your instincts and keep the boundaries in place.</p><p></p><p>One day at a time... We are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Feeling Sad, post: 676302, member: 19245"] Acacia, welcome to this site. I joined 9 months ago and it has been a Godsend. I received supportive words of encouragement that kept me from falling apart. I completely empathize with your fear of aggressive men after being abused as a child. My life was threatened by my schizophrenic sister when I was 11. My parents did not protect me because they were very overwhelmed. I then married an abusive Vietnam vet. I tried to help him and stayed over 12 years. I numbed out the fear...ptsd. My eldest son unfortunately became schizophrenic. I tried to help him for 9 years. I felt helpless due to my childhood trauma. I lived in fear. Last June, I had to file a restraining order because he held a broken bottle to my throat and argued with his voices about not wanting to kill me. My childhood trauma put me, finally, into survival mode. Trust your gut instinct. Be kind to yourself. Do not push yourself beyond what you are able to do. Yes, you love your son, but you fear him. I am going through the same thing. Yes, I miss him. But, my younger son and I need to be safe...both physically AND emotionally. You also need to feel safe in your own home. When you feel that you are ready, you will open his letter. It could be days or months. You are, rightfully, trying to protect yourself from any verbal, emotional, or physical abuse or trauma. There is no rush. You might have a trusted friend read it silently and supply you an edited version with only important facts. Do kind things for yourself. Try to relax and go out into Nature. Watch funny movies or see upbeat friends. You are doing the right thing in setting up boundaries. It is sending him a message of what behavior you will allow. He knows that you love him. I am a special education teacher. It is called behavior modification. Go with your instincts and keep the boundaries in place. One day at a time... We are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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