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It was the most awful meeting. He (husband) said things that are so NOT true. But he believes it. He honestly believes it. I can say it is not true, I can say I DID do that, yet he says I am lying and I did not.
Still denies the phone thing. Even when I have it printed in my hand.
It was like a screaming match of accusations and insults. Both ways. Think it was more him to me, but can't be sure it was so bad.
therapist interrupted many times. Just ended up back at the screaming. He said we have a great kid. But living in an environment like this would cause anyone to be anxious let alone a kid.
After it was all said and done, therapist asked what ONE thing I wanted husband to do. I said be involved in difficult child's education. He asked me three times I said the same thing. Apparently that isn't what he wanted. So he asked it a different way. I said I want husband to pay the bills. I don't want that job. And as many times as I have told him he keeps sayind "SHE LOVES THAT". That came up several times and I told him over and over that NO I do NOT like that. Yet, again and again he said I did. I looked at therapist and said, TELL him I do not like it. husband then said how his dad died and he was on his own and he paid his own bills, blah, blah. Still, when therapist asked him if HE could do that, husband would go around it. Finally after about 5 times asking, husband said yes.
husband was nasty, had a snotty attitude. I was sitting there crying and I looked at him and he made a FACE at me. I asked him why. He said because of the way I was looking at him. I was just looking at him so hurt and crushed and crying. But because of that he makes a face at me.
therapist asked husband what one thing he would like me to do. Several times. husband said LESS yelling. I said I can do that if he backs me up. If he isn't snotty and mean. Then husband says see, all she does is yell.
therapist did ask husband...many years ago when you married her did you love her. He was quiet, then said yes. I just shook my head because I don't remember ever being loved. therapist asked him WHEN things started getting bad. husband answered correctly. When difficult child was born.
I have more to say but my head is pounding right now, and tears are running down my face. It was awful. Just awful. He cut me off, said things that aren't true and would not let me respond. Just like when we are at home. That is why I start yelling.
difficult child has his appointment today. 1/2 day of school then right to therapist. But it is 20 miles away.
Final exams for difficult child. He is really upset. Don't know if he will pass all his classes. He waits until the very end and then tries to get in missing work, loses it, whatever. I am sure he will be upset if when I have to mention studying today.
Can I post later? Even if you are just sick of hearing from me? Can I say more of what went on? I don't want to bore you all, you have so much of your own lives to have to think/read about mine.
But, right now, I have to talk to a neighbor that is at my door waiting for me.
be back.
Still denies the phone thing. Even when I have it printed in my hand.
It was like a screaming match of accusations and insults. Both ways. Think it was more him to me, but can't be sure it was so bad.
therapist interrupted many times. Just ended up back at the screaming. He said we have a great kid. But living in an environment like this would cause anyone to be anxious let alone a kid.
After it was all said and done, therapist asked what ONE thing I wanted husband to do. I said be involved in difficult child's education. He asked me three times I said the same thing. Apparently that isn't what he wanted. So he asked it a different way. I said I want husband to pay the bills. I don't want that job. And as many times as I have told him he keeps sayind "SHE LOVES THAT". That came up several times and I told him over and over that NO I do NOT like that. Yet, again and again he said I did. I looked at therapist and said, TELL him I do not like it. husband then said how his dad died and he was on his own and he paid his own bills, blah, blah. Still, when therapist asked him if HE could do that, husband would go around it. Finally after about 5 times asking, husband said yes.
husband was nasty, had a snotty attitude. I was sitting there crying and I looked at him and he made a FACE at me. I asked him why. He said because of the way I was looking at him. I was just looking at him so hurt and crushed and crying. But because of that he makes a face at me.
therapist asked husband what one thing he would like me to do. Several times. husband said LESS yelling. I said I can do that if he backs me up. If he isn't snotty and mean. Then husband says see, all she does is yell.
therapist did ask husband...many years ago when you married her did you love her. He was quiet, then said yes. I just shook my head because I don't remember ever being loved. therapist asked him WHEN things started getting bad. husband answered correctly. When difficult child was born.
I have more to say but my head is pounding right now, and tears are running down my face. It was awful. Just awful. He cut me off, said things that aren't true and would not let me respond. Just like when we are at home. That is why I start yelling.
difficult child has his appointment today. 1/2 day of school then right to therapist. But it is 20 miles away.
Final exams for difficult child. He is really upset. Don't know if he will pass all his classes. He waits until the very end and then tries to get in missing work, loses it, whatever. I am sure he will be upset if when I have to mention studying today.
Can I post later? Even if you are just sick of hearing from me? Can I say more of what went on? I don't want to bore you all, you have so much of your own lives to have to think/read about mine.
But, right now, I have to talk to a neighbor that is at my door waiting for me.
be back.
