It's been a while since I updated difficult child's progress. difficult child has now been in the sober house since March 29. She has been on restriction for the past three weeks so we have not been able to see or talk to her except through mail. The first two weeks were due to not cleaning the shower well enough and for putting her feet up on the chair during group. Funny because I have been telling her for years that is rude and she should keep her feet on the floor but she never listened to me. I know this sounds petty but the sober house is very strict on following rules because they realize following rules is a difficult thing for these women.
Just as she was getting off her first restriction she got put on another for riding a bike to an AA meeting with another resident. Because she was on restriction she was not suppose to be riding a bike and was either to walk or get a ride from a female member who has had at least one year sobriety. So our Sunday visit to the zoo for her birthday was canceled and we didn't get to see or even talk to her on her birthday. She was disappointed but took it well and in her letter she admitted it was her fault.
Her letters have been very encouraging. She is taking responsibility for her problems and for all the actions that put her where she is. She told us she loves us and regrets never having a close relationship with us and is going to spend her entire life trying to change that. She said when she comes home Sunday for her visit she is deleting all her old friends from her facebook and phone and is committed to being around sober people. Honestly her letters sound very sincere and it is obvious she is doing a lot of self reflection.
On another note, the neighbor she was staying with before she went to the sober home, has been ringing our doorbell and banging on the door in the middle of the night, sometimes twice a night. He sent her a fb message I intercepted telling her she promised to stay in contact with him and he is the only one who tried to help her and now she is ignoring him (obviously he doesn't know she isn't here). We finally called the police the other night after he rang our bell twice and they went to his house and told him they would arrest him if he ever stepped on our property again. It helped that one of the officers who responded knows us from previous calls about difficult child and also knows this druggie neighbor and was more than happy to help. He asked how difficult child was doing and was very pleased to hear she is where she is at.
So for now things are going well. Our home is finally peaceful and every day we are all getting one step further from the chaos and hopefully one step closer to a new life.
Just as she was getting off her first restriction she got put on another for riding a bike to an AA meeting with another resident. Because she was on restriction she was not suppose to be riding a bike and was either to walk or get a ride from a female member who has had at least one year sobriety. So our Sunday visit to the zoo for her birthday was canceled and we didn't get to see or even talk to her on her birthday. She was disappointed but took it well and in her letter she admitted it was her fault.
Her letters have been very encouraging. She is taking responsibility for her problems and for all the actions that put her where she is. She told us she loves us and regrets never having a close relationship with us and is going to spend her entire life trying to change that. She said when she comes home Sunday for her visit she is deleting all her old friends from her facebook and phone and is committed to being around sober people. Honestly her letters sound very sincere and it is obvious she is doing a lot of self reflection.
On another note, the neighbor she was staying with before she went to the sober home, has been ringing our doorbell and banging on the door in the middle of the night, sometimes twice a night. He sent her a fb message I intercepted telling her she promised to stay in contact with him and he is the only one who tried to help her and now she is ignoring him (obviously he doesn't know she isn't here). We finally called the police the other night after he rang our bell twice and they went to his house and told him they would arrest him if he ever stepped on our property again. It helped that one of the officers who responded knows us from previous calls about difficult child and also knows this druggie neighbor and was more than happy to help. He asked how difficult child was doing and was very pleased to hear she is where she is at.
So for now things are going well. Our home is finally peaceful and every day we are all getting one step further from the chaos and hopefully one step closer to a new life.
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Continue to enjoy the peace and quiet!
