Hi all, It's been a long time. ('cept my pop in to the long lost people thread a few months or so back - did a search for that one but it must have dropped off). I think the last time I posted here about difficult child was almost three years ago when he was first arrested. I do know I never offered any specific details of his arrest. Let's just say the last three years have been horrific as far as his arrest, the reasons behind it, the dealing with the issues at hand and my emotional and often physical health. The various hearings, the continuances, etc. The basics - he's been in county jail since his arrest, but his crime being a Federal one, he's considered in Federal custody. The case never went to trial, he settled for a plea agreement. He was sentenced on 5/27 to 25 years with 20 years strict parole after his release. There were also State charges pending, but we were under the impression that the state had decided that since he'd get the most time out of the Federal charges, I guess they'd save time and money and consider the time he's been in "time served" for the state "punishment". Turns out that's not the case at all and the State is pursuing prosecuting him on other charges related to the Fed crimes. I had heard he was offered a plea from them and he turned it down (this is one of the reasons it took to get to the end of the Fed charges - he tried everything and anything to first, wiggle out of the charges all together, and then try whatever he could to get the least amount of time sentenced (min 15 years / max 30 - he got the 25, but God knows the prosecution pushed for the 30!!) they offered him 25 on the state side to run concurrent with- the federal time. He turned it down??? Hello?!?!?!? Instead he took his lawyer's advice and is letting it go to trial - which could add more time on top of the 25 instead of doing 25 all together for both the fed and state. I'm still trying to figure out who is the more stupid one in this decision. SOOO where I thought I had a "closure" of sorts back on 5/27, I've got to deal with- the anxiety of pending hearings, continuances, etc. all over again. sad / scary part is this is all being handled local. My husband is a manager in a company in the same town - people see the stories in the paper and he spends the day wondering whether they've connected his last name to the monster in the newspaper He has some kind of hearing in August and supposedly a trial date sometime in September -- we'll see if they stick to those. Um, no, I doubt it. LOL So that's where it's at for now. Hope all are as well as can be expected! HUGS I'll be gone from this earth before he's released. I feel as though there has been a death in the family. My head still reels almost a month later over what's happened and my wondering how I'm supposed to react and feel about all of it. I was told that day by someone very close to me not even to bother trying to figure it out right now. I can tell you that I can still count on two hands how many times I've been to visit him in the three years - and he's only 20 minutes down in the next town.