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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 640634" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think it's best to expect him to act like a man. Just, "Of course you got a job. You're smart man (emphasis man).If he is antisocial, it may not even be safe for him to live with you.</p><p></p><p>Once 18,then it is up to yourself, legally and maturity-wise, to take care of your own mental health. If a young man won't launch, you may want to consider a timetable:</p><p></p><p>1. In two months I will get paid $200 rent.</p><p>2. You will buy your own food.</p><p>3. You wil pay your portion of car expenses, including insurance, gas and upkeep.</p><p>4. You will move toward getting your own place, even if it is a room in a private home, one year from Jan. 1, 2015. That will be your goal for becoming self-sufficient.</p><p></p><p>That sort of thing. That Is only if he is not dangerous. If he is, he may need out right now for your safety. You did not call him dangerous. I will assume he is just lazy and unpleasant, like most of our grown adult kid.</p><p></p><p>I would not baby him. He has long ceased to be a child and should have done these things long ago.</p><p></p><p></p><p>These are just my thoughts and suggestions. I wish you good luck and hope your son decides to act like the man that he is. Some young people just need the knowledge that Mom isn't taking care of them anymore to start moving ahead. You can slowly stop the money train and, In the meantime, he can certainly do his own laundry and cook and clean after himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 640634, member: 1550"] I think it's best to expect him to act like a man. Just, "Of course you got a job. You're smart man (emphasis man).If he is antisocial, it may not even be safe for him to live with you. Once 18,then it is up to yourself, legally and maturity-wise, to take care of your own mental health. If a young man won't launch, you may want to consider a timetable: 1. In two months I will get paid $200 rent. 2. You will buy your own food. 3. You wil pay your portion of car expenses, including insurance, gas and upkeep. 4. You will move toward getting your own place, even if it is a room in a private home, one year from Jan. 1, 2015. That will be your goal for becoming self-sufficient. That sort of thing. That Is only if he is not dangerous. If he is, he may need out right now for your safety. You did not call him dangerous. I will assume he is just lazy and unpleasant, like most of our grown adult kid. I would not baby him. He has long ceased to be a child and should have done these things long ago. These are just my thoughts and suggestions. I wish you good luck and hope your son decides to act like the man that he is. Some young people just need the knowledge that Mom isn't taking care of them anymore to start moving ahead. You can slowly stop the money train and, In the meantime, he can certainly do his own laundry and cook and clean after himself. [/QUOTE]
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