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<blockquote data-quote="dayatatime" data-source="post: 636968" data-attributes="member: 17805"><p>Have you asked CPS what they can do to help? I don't have as much experience with them as you do but I've had 2 cases and both where good experiences. I have, basically, a PR package prepared for new case workers who pass through (my difficult child doesn't last in any program for long so there are constantly new people)…. The most effective has been a list of various treatments I have tried with all the mental health professional's phone numbers, etc. For my first case I had people write letters of support and those seemed to to have a big influence on the case worker-- demonstrating that I had a network of support. I had my therapist call the last CPS worker and try to talk to her about how she can help me. I couldn't ask for my difficult child to be removed from my house but I could ask him to ask. What they had to offer was a voluntary placement, which I decided against because it seemed too potentially dangerous for my kid (too likely he would run away). My point is, it has helped me a lot to see myself as on the same side as the CPS people.</p><p></p><p>I agree with others that I would not stay in your living situation-- if the kids can't be removed, I would remove myself. I stayed in an abusive marriage for 13 years. The one thing I've learned is that it doesn't benefit anyone for me to let abuse happen to me-- it isn't even good for the perpetrator, which, in your case is/are the kids. The best thing you can do for everyone involved is demonstrate behaviorally what the appropriate response to abuse is…. and the appropriate response is to prioritize safety then let the rest of the card fall where they may.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dayatatime, post: 636968, member: 17805"] Have you asked CPS what they can do to help? I don't have as much experience with them as you do but I've had 2 cases and both where good experiences. I have, basically, a PR package prepared for new case workers who pass through (my difficult child doesn't last in any program for long so there are constantly new people)…. The most effective has been a list of various treatments I have tried with all the mental health professional's phone numbers, etc. For my first case I had people write letters of support and those seemed to to have a big influence on the case worker-- demonstrating that I had a network of support. I had my therapist call the last CPS worker and try to talk to her about how she can help me. I couldn't ask for my difficult child to be removed from my house but I could ask him to ask. What they had to offer was a voluntary placement, which I decided against because it seemed too potentially dangerous for my kid (too likely he would run away). My point is, it has helped me a lot to see myself as on the same side as the CPS people. I agree with others that I would not stay in your living situation-- if the kids can't be removed, I would remove myself. I stayed in an abusive marriage for 13 years. The one thing I've learned is that it doesn't benefit anyone for me to let abuse happen to me-- it isn't even good for the perpetrator, which, in your case is/are the kids. The best thing you can do for everyone involved is demonstrate behaviorally what the appropriate response to abuse is…. and the appropriate response is to prioritize safety then let the rest of the card fall where they may. [/QUOTE]
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